@PJM
I'm not entirely sure I can agree with you on this one, simply because this is such a touchy and individual matter. Some couples are good with having a more or less open relationship, some demand strict monogamy, and others are somewhere in the middle.

There is no hard and fast rule about any aspect of sexuality or relationships. It's like saying that people are either gay or straight- there are too many shades in between. Same thing applies to monogamy- some are very good at it and some aren't. And some people are comfortable with open relationships while others aren't.

I can definitely see the viewpoint of someone who says that the threesome was too good to pass up- it would be someone whose needs were not being met in a monogamous relationship. That said, he DOES owe it to her to let her know that his needs are not being met, and that he is seeking out what he needs elsewhere. She has to be fully aware of this. If she is and she's okay with it, then all is good. If he's doing this on the sly and she would not be comfortable with it, that's another matter entirely.

But no matter what, it is NOT up to MM to break that news to her. He has to be the one to do it. I say again: she needs to stay the hell out of it.
( The Resident Loon Not a demographic. Do not measure., Mon 29 Sep 2008, 16:45, Reply)