but
if you are not part of this couple then you don't know what the status is, no matter how it may seem. Sure, it may seem like there's cheating going on - and maybe that's the case - but there could well be more shades of grey to all this. Nothing is cut and dried. But it's no one's business but theirs.

See, question is: do you want to tell her because it will make you feel better (e.g. less guilty for knowing something she might not)? Do you want to tell her because if you were in that position you'd want to know? Do you want to tell her because you feel it is your moral and friendly duty?

Not trying to turn your troubles into some sort of ethical dilemma, just curious as to how much we project our own expectations into such scenarios.
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