I kind of have to be careful here
as my other half has a child. But I myself have never had any desire to procreate. I'm superficially selfish in that I don't want to have to be responsible for a kid of my own, because it's not a responsibility that always ends as soon as they fly the nest - they can be a millstone around your neck for much of your adult life unless you make a conscious decsion to walk away, which many parents just can't do.

In my general experience there are three types of person that become parents:
- because they really do want to.
- because it's the done thing or the 'next step' in a relationship, or,
- because they are too fucking stupid to know any better.

Obviously, I have to make compromises now because their is a child involved, and that's fine. I knew what I was getting into. But sometimes, events serve to convince me further that I was right to not want my own. It can cause too much heartbreak and anguish.
( Davros' Granddad a voice of calm reason in a world of spastics., Thu 15 Jan 2009, 16:46, Reply)