Well, this is what I understad of the situation:
You have had a boyfriend for a length of time, I don't know how serious you are.

He has some issues with his sexuality.

You two were at a party and whilst you were there he let/invited a guy to bum him in the same room as you.




So, unless otherwise explicitly stated, sleeping with anyone else is absolutely not on. There's no respect there and no recognition of boundaries. Knowingly doing it in the same room as you is inexcusable and I'd be very wary about making excuses based on whatever chemicals he'd taken or how drunk he was.

Assuming that is the situation and if it were me, I don't think I could ever forgive him. I guess I'd want an apology but I'm not sure that would make things better at all. If you don't think that's normal behaviour, then maybe it would be better to find someone who also thinks it's not normal behaviour.

Sorry for being negative, but from what I've read, I'd be all for moving on to better things as soon as possible.

Obviously talking to him is a good idea, at least to tell him how you feel. But do it when you're not raging. Maybe write a letter to get it all out beforehand and then talk when you're calmer.

Good luck, and I hope you get things sorted out for you.
(Shippy likes linebreaks and doesn't care what you think, Sun 25 Oct 2009, 20:36, Reply)