I don't quite think of it that way
There are good reasons to have kids no doubt, but the pro reasons that actually sway me slightly are all completely selfish.

I've not got to the point where I feel I lack purpose, not yet anyway
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 25 Jan 2010, 14:52, 1 reply, 16 years ago)

I hadn't noticed I felt like that until I no longer did.

( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Mon 25 Jan 2010, 14:54, Reply)

hmmm
I think the way I'm really feeling is, that if it happened by accident it'd be fine, as long as we were in a better position financially. That's the trouble, and that is what is really making me negative on it at the moment. We are fine as we are, both got good salaries for our ages etc. but even for a short time if the mrs was up the duff we would really really struggle, which would be fucking shite.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 25 Jan 2010, 14:57, Reply)

You'd find you didn't give a fuck about money
Honestly - it's nearly bankrupted me (I'd hope you didn't need to spend 6k on fucking parasitic lawyers like I did) and I don't care a jot. When you see their cheeky little faces nothing else on earth matters one bit.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Mon 25 Jan 2010, 15:00, Reply)

you are probably right
but I'd first have 9 months of freaking out to get through. I don't want to have to go through that.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 25 Jan 2010, 15:03, Reply)

When our first kid came along
I was at college and the wife was at Uni, living in a rented flat. We never had fillet steak every night, but we got by. The thing is, having a kid, a joint responsibility negates the need for lots of other things that used to fill your time and that you previously consider important or worthwhile.

Women get maternity pay or you may well qualify for family tax credits, you also get child benefit and various other 'benefits'.

There is definitely no 'good' time to have a kid, but in the 9 months that it takes for it to appear, you are primed and ready to go. Yes it is hard work, yes it is boring yet constantly changing. Then comes all the priceless moments, the unconditional love, the playing, laughing, helping them experience brand new things, seeing their delight, watching them become more and more independent, watching them succeed, helping them when they fail, teaching them right from wrong etc.

Until you have done enough to make them into a teenager.....then the fun really begins ;-)
(Cancer Joy was short lived, Mon 25 Jan 2010, 15:12, Reply)

that is about as close to persuaded as I've ever got
well done ;-)

I'm still not convinced, but am less terrified.

just thought of another reason against. I would be unable to prevent myself from giving a child a ridiculous name. I think Six and Seven are good names, and a lot of stuff from Greek mythology.

That alone should disqualify me from parenthood
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 25 Jan 2010, 15:16, Reply)

fun rape
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Mon 25 Jan 2010, 15:19, Reply)

same thing surely?
a discussion in the pub the other night led to this:

got problems with premature ejaculation? Look on the bright side. At least you'll be able to carry out rapes quickly.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 25 Jan 2010, 15:19, Reply)

POTD

( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Mon 25 Jan 2010, 15:21, Reply)

"It can start WAY before that" - Fred West

(Cancer Joy was short lived, Mon 25 Jan 2010, 15:21, Reply)