That's what I do.
Sometimes I get that rise of panic a few weeks in, sometimes after the first date. I've never not had it though.
(Applebite Uh! A cow!, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:19, 1 reply, 16 years ago)

without wanting to (badly) psychoanalyse
why the panic?
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:21, Reply)

I have a terrible, terrible fear of commitment.
Even the tiniest little bit, like committing to go on a date with someone more than a week in advance makes me panic. It's not as bad as it used to be, I used to bail on someone I liked as soon as they suggested a date, no matter how much I liked them.
I think I take the phrase "there's plenty more fish in the sea" too literally. I want to catch as many of them as I can. I always think: "What if I become his girlfriend today, then meet someone better tomorrow?"

Yes! My puppy is home :D
(Applebite Uh! A cow!, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:28, Reply)

that's pretty weird
and by 'that's' I mean 'women are'
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:35, Reply)

This isn't the standard thinking of mot of my friends though.
The all want, and some even need relationships, as in can't function single.

And that was really shit psychoanalysing by the way.
(Applebite Uh! A cow!, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:38, Reply)

I wasn't actually attempting to analyse
just curious

both ends of the spectrum are quite odd, particularly from a bloke's point of view. very confusing as well, having been on the receiving end of both.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:40, Reply)

If anyone would like to psychoanalyse, please go ahead.
It's nothing to do with being afraid to open up to people, because I'm about as open as you get.

I confuse myself to be honest. And I really don't understand why people don't enjoy being free more.
(Applebite Uh! A cow!, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:45, Reply)

I can't begin to offer an explanation
and I haven't been single for about 8 and a half years, and at that time being free involved having basically no success with women.

I would have enjoyed a period of singledom years ago when I upgraded gfs, just to see what it was like and how I got on, but I would've missed out on being with my mrs.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:51, Reply)

You just think "Argh fuck off!!"
and you bawk when the phone lights up.
it means you've decided you don't like him enough to keep dating him but you don't know how to tell him.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:30, Reply)

or OH MY GOD, STOP FUCKING TALKING TO ME.
Give me five minutes to myself, please!
(Applebite Uh! A cow!, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:31, Reply)