Bullies aren't always aware of the effect they're having
A bit of name-calling might be like water off a duck's back to one kid, but might destroy another.
The threat of violence could be an invitation to a good ruck to one kid and absolutely terrifying to another.

There are people who bullied me and I bump into them now and they're all "Hi Roota, how you doing? I saw your nan the other day. Here's a photo of my baby."
Things get distorted. Some kids are evil bastards and know exactly what they're doing though.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Tue 5 Oct 2010, 12:36, 1 reply, 15 years ago)

you may be right
But I'm sticking to the conclusion that most of the time they know. I was bullied for ages for being 'ugly' and 'stupid' and those kids knew what they were doing. It was my good luck that I've never been good about caring about peoples opinions of me. Yet it still left a blot in early teenage years, and people I know suffer from severe after effects from relentless bullying. I don't find it plausible that there is no reason for people to bully, and if there is a reason there is understanding
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Tue 5 Oct 2010, 12:43, Reply)

I think they had a Rolodex of 'reasons' to bully me
But meh, they were stupid and angry and if the urge to bully strikes, I guess it's a kid like me who's going to cop it.
Happiness and confidence are the best revenge.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Tue 5 Oct 2010, 12:48, Reply)