I'm normally too calm to argue
and so is he. I don't know. I think I've done the right thing, I just wish that I could feel more sure about it, commit to the damn decision I've made and stop wavering - not least because this must be getting fucking boring for you now.
(berk, Wed 24 Nov 2010, 22:57, 1 reply, 15 years ago)

Sorry berk, but it makes a welcome change hearing about other peoples relationship problems
Rather than being the person with them.

Only you know if you've done the right thing, and there isn't a time limit on when/how you need to understand you've either made the right decision (or otherwise).

Give it a bit more time, if the ex is who you're supposed to be with, you'll end up with him - and happy - if not, you're still young and have all the time in the world to meet Mr Right, rather than Mr Right-Now.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Wed 24 Nov 2010, 23:00, Reply)

I suppose so
sage advice as ever... I guess partially at least I feel I ought to stick to the decision I've made because I don't want to mess him around a couple of months down the line by changing my mind and wanting to get back together when he'll be getting over me - hence why I want to feel like I've made the right decision now.
What's up with your love life, then?
(berk, Wed 24 Nov 2010, 23:11, Reply)

Nothing up with it berk
I was just harking back to the marriage problems of yesteryear.

I'm turning into the Professor Yaffle with all this relatonship advice (granted, if I knew anything about relationships, I'd be in one, but hey ho).
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Wed 24 Nov 2010, 23:12, Reply)

At least you managed to snag someone
long enough to get married - clearly you're not just paper bag & bin material! At a time when all of my friends are getting engaged and buying houses and whatnot, I am considering moving back in to a house share when I've had my own flat for 5 years or more, and have managed to lose my boyfriend of 18 months. I think probably your advice is more worth listening to than my own!
(berk, Wed 24 Nov 2010, 23:16, Reply)

And give it 36 months
One in three of your married/engaged couples will be single and thinking 'I was I was more like berk'

Just think that'll happen if the PhD application comes good? Think of all the new opportunities that will present.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Wed 24 Nov 2010, 23:24, Reply)

Unlikely, most of them have been together since college
it's only ever me that's had trouble finding and retaining a man! PhD would be awesomeness on a stick but I have to be realistic - the chances of me actually getting one are miniscule.
(berk, Wed 24 Nov 2010, 23:28, Reply)