But I'm a Real Girl!
Last summer whilst I was living back in Norfolk, I went to have an STD test (just to be a responsible adult y'know). I wasn't nervous, had them before. Went into the room to have a chat with the doctor before the testing- here is an extract of the converation:

Doctor: So Miss AFTN, are you in a relationship?

Me: No

Doctor: When was the last time you had sex?

Me: Two months ago.

Doctor: Ah ok, since you've said you've recently come back from travelling, was this with a man you met whilst in South America?

Me: Oh no, it was a local Norfolk lad.

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Now here's what the answers SHOULD have been:

Doctor: So Miss AFTN, are you in a relationship?

Me: Yes

Doctor: When was the last time you had sex?

Me: Last weekend

Doctor: Ah ok, since you've said you've recently come back from travelling, was this with a man you met whilst in South America?

Me: No, it was with my girlfriend who lives in London.

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I have NO idea where these answers came from! They just came out, no thinking about it, no hesitation!

I'm not usually too bothered about people knowing about my sexuality. But there are exceptions, usually around older people. When I went on holiday a couple of years ago with my friend and her family, she told me not to mention I had a girlfriend in front of her grandparents as it was a generation/ religion thing.

Also I work with a girl from Ghana, who doesn't really understand it due to cultural differences.

I don't see my dad very often, prolly 3-4 times a year and I haven't got around to telling him as he's not the most open minded man I know.

I'm not very brave and HATE confrontation. So I have to censor what I say (or lie about my lifestyle) to different people. But only to people I hardly ever see so it's not like I'm leading a double life or owt! Can just be a bit difficult sometimes!

Yus I'm proud

I think I have issues.....
( awayfromthenumbers, Wed 18 Aug 2010, 10:57, 31 replies)

May I be the first to say it...
POIDH

Have a click.
(SatchmoR No, mummy, don't put knitting needles in my ears!, Wed 18 Aug 2010, 11:02, closed)

I shouldn't worry
I always think it's a bit odd that there's an assumption you have to be 'out and proud'. There's absolutely no reason to feel you need to tell everyone you come across about your sexuality, any more than if you were straight.
(SnowyTheWereRabbit the Leporid from Hell, Wed 18 Aug 2010, 11:38, closed)

I'm straight, I'm usually late
GET USED TO IT
(Bret Mong Keys Eggs has wet his weapon, Wed 18 Aug 2010, 11:47, closed)

My sister came out some time ago
and my Dad was generally fine about it. However he did turn round to me and say if I told him that I was gay then it would have been a different matter. I guess that hetrosexual men can relate to gay girls more than gay blokes but I found his response interesting.
(bROKEN aRROW PUA HVI Master, Wed 18 Aug 2010, 11:48, closed)

What an odd double-standard
Why do you reckon he feels that way?
(Happybara The jungle came alive and took him, Wed 18 Aug 2010, 12:15, closed)

Are you sure you have a girlfriend?
Only if not, you may well be in a sketch from Little Britain.

I took my missus back to Norfolk a while back, she wouldn't stop making rubbish jokes about Stephen Fry. That is until the radio alarm clock went off one morning and then she wouldn't stop laughing at Stephen Bumfry.
( Dervel OTBC, Wed 18 Aug 2010, 12:17, closed)

Yupyup I'm very sure :-D

Haha a Little Britain sketch?!
( awayfromthenumbers, Wed 18 Aug 2010, 12:46, closed)

Well no
The opposite really, of the one where Daffyd is in the clinic.

Actually I'm not even sure that makes sense to me anymore.
( Dervel OTBC, Wed 18 Aug 2010, 13:23, closed)

Generally I operate a policy of brutal honesty
But seeing as I'm a heterosexual male I can't really relate to the difficulty of coming out of the closet.

That being said, I've just recently broken it off with a lesbian girl I was seeing for near on two years, mainly because she was terrified of admitting that she was bisexual and having to come out to everyone about it. To the extent of het family and friends not knowing about me at all, even though we were fucking pretty regularly for two years, and she wanted me to move in with her. Needless to say, that ended up driving me away from her, and it was a particularly messy break up.

So don't hide your sexuality, whatever it happens to be. People have no right to judge you for it.
(DarkLite swallowed my entire undercarriage, Wed 18 Aug 2010, 13:13, closed)

You're probably worried it may get back to your parents at some point.
I'm not saying your Doctor will just throw it in there when your mum goes in for a flu jab or something. But you never know, paranoia can make you seem like something's wrong when it isn't.
(WiggZ, Thu 19 Aug 2010, 12:00, closed)

Well my Mum knows and she's fine about it! (Except she recently told my brother I'm "going through a phase"... 5 years and still going!)

It's just I'm not close to my Dad at all, so can't be bothered to rock the boat when I don't really see him that much. And now I feel like too much time has passed, so if I did tell him, he'd get pissed off that my Mum and brothers knew and he didn't... eeep!

What a tangled web we weave etc etc...
( awayfromthenumbers, Thu 19 Aug 2010, 12:17, closed)