I'm sorry but
I have as much sympathy for a phobia sufferer as I do for somebody with ADHD or M.E.

Phobias - Mental
ADHD - Bad diet/discipline
M.E - Lazy
(oneinthepink is at your cervix m'lady, Fri 11 Apr 2008, 9:01, 15 replies)

Come come now
Surely that means that almost everyone on b3ta has phobias, ADHD and M.E
( its_hatorah_bitch is b3ta the devil you know on, Fri 11 Apr 2008, 9:29, closed)

^^^^^
Ummmm..... quite possibly, now that you've said that.
(oneinthepink is at your cervix m'lady, Fri 11 Apr 2008, 9:38, closed)

not so sure about phobias
but I'm definitely with you on the ADHD and ME fronts
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Fri 11 Apr 2008, 9:50, closed)

Why
do people assume that just because something is mental rather than physical that it doesn't exist?
There is actual evidence that there is a difference in brain patterns, neurotransmitters etc between 'normal' people and people with ADHD and other mental diseases. And they are diseases, by the way.
Don't make ignorant statements if you don't understand what you're talking about. But then again, the tabloids have been making a living out of that for years.
(Dazzorifik is bored of b3ta, Fri 11 Apr 2008, 10:31, closed)

I'm fully aware that mental diseases exist
and perhaps ADHD does exist, but I'm pretty certain that it's not as prevalent as it's made out.

it's a handy excuse for a parent who can't control their child, probably because they feed them shit (not literally)

edit: *wonders who monty boyce is talking about*
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Fri 11 Apr 2008, 10:37, closed)

I, on the other hand
have a great deal of sympathy for you, you simpering bell-end.

If ignorance truly is bliss, then you, you dismal pellet of excreta, must be far and away the happiest cretin on the Sunshine Bus.

*seethes*
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Fri 11 Apr 2008, 10:57, closed)

ADHD and others
I've dealt with kids with ADHD and other disorders (working in an EBD school gives you that kind of experience) and can say that yes, these disorders do exist, but at the same time it can be brought out and used as an excuse by many parents who can't be arsed with their kids.

There are different methods for dealing with ADHD kids beyond just letting them misbehave, one such method was to give them a ball which they could squeeze (insert joke here).

Phobias? yeah, I tink they are a real issue for people. I have a total irrational fear of spiders (big ones, money spiders are ok weirdly enough), I know on an intellectual level that they can do no harm to me but try to get me close to one and I'll rip your arm off to get away from it!

So yeah, perhaps having a phobia makes you mental but it's a real issue, i read thgat it can be caused form parents showing fear when you are young? Not sure of the truth of it but my mum was alwys scared of spiders as well....

Apologies but it annoys me that people just dismiss something out of turn
(Fuckarma was masturbating into your handbag, Fri 11 Apr 2008, 10:59, closed)

Awww Monty
Do you feel sorrow for the poor souls on Freaky Eaters too?
Or maybe you're one of them.
(oneinthepink is at your cervix m'lady, Fri 11 Apr 2008, 11:10, closed)

Happily
I've no idea what you're on about.

But having seen a lively young woman with a great future get literally struck down by ME and spend the best part of a decade in bed on 30+ tablets a day I can safely say that laziness it is not.

I've just realised I have a phobia of imbeciles
*runs away from oneinthepink in terror*
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Fri 11 Apr 2008, 11:34, closed)

And
Did it bother you enough to help her day in day out?
(oneinthepink is at your cervix m'lady, Fri 11 Apr 2008, 11:53, closed)

That would have been weird
As my brother was already doing that, seeing as it was his wife.


Your point is?
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Fri 11 Apr 2008, 12:32, closed)

Oh the Joys of fuckwittery
There is a vast difference between being a bit scared of something (what 90% of people call a phobia), and an actual phobia.
The difference is simple to explain, if they _boast_ about it in the pub/behind the bikesheds/in the QotW it's not a phobia.

If the first time you find out about it is when your mate goes white and starts trembling at the sight of a hairbrush, that's a phobia.

Me, I don't like electric hedge trimmers. The slots there are just the right size for my fingers to get caught in, they frighten me, but only to the point of preferring to use a pair manual shears and letting other people use the hedge trimmer. I don't lose the plot at the sight/sound/thought of one, hence not phobic.

M.E. is real, dreadfully and unpleasantly real. Get used to the idea that people can have medical problems that don't show up anywhere but under the microscope.

ADHD I have no data on. I've only ever met spoiled children on a sugar high.
( DukeEuphoria Comes highly reccomended, Fri 11 Apr 2008, 15:59, closed)

@Duke
Perhaps people don't tell their mates about their fears because, as we know, people can be bastards. I don't advertise my fears to people who know me just in case they decide that it would be 'funny' to suddenly get me in a situation where I'll be turned from a 6 foot bloke with a black belt in jujitsu to a cowering whimpering mess, which I think is not the definition of funny, for me or anyone else...
(Fuckarma was masturbating into your handbag, Fri 11 Apr 2008, 16:11, closed)

^ ^ ^ ^
This! This! A thousand times this! QOTW gets the heebie jeebie stuff. The fucking huge phobia is never, never mentioned for this very reason. People would likely end up dead.
( crackhouseceilidhband Fuck off back to Mumsnet, Fri 11 Apr 2008, 22:20, closed)

@FK & CHCB
I think we're saying the same thing here, the "phobias" you talk about are not the true phobias.

For various reasons ranging from the certain knowledge that your mates are evil bastards, down to the sheer inability to talk about the things that _really_ scare you.
( DukeEuphoria Comes highly reccomended, Mon 14 Apr 2008, 11:38, closed)