You're Dumped. I Love You But You're Dumped..
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In my long and illustrious career, as a serial monogamist, I've been unfaithful twice. By that I mean that I've screwed someone else while, technically, belonging to someone else.

And I'm fucking *shit* at being unfaithful.

Both times I've rang up my then-girlfriend and dumped her on the spot. My rational was that she didn't deserve to be with someone as foul and as weak as me. I confessed what had happened, didn't offer any excuses, and walked out of the relationship leaving two broken hearts and one slapper cackling.

You see, I just can't handle guilt. If I've done something against *my* moral code then I have to punish myself for it - forgiveness isn't an option from them or me. If I fuck up badly enough I'll take myself out if the equation.

With me, the only unforgivable sin, when you love someone, is being unfaithful. Anything else we can work through together.

But the Gods love to play with people like me. So most of my relationships since then have broken up because my partner screwed someone else and I found out. No second chances, no 2 strikes and you're out, it's over.

You'd think that I'd get cynical. You'd think that I'd judge and treat every new partner with sneaking suspicion based on what had happened in the past? You'd think that I use my L33t skillz to read their e-mail, their phone records, to track every single thing they do through their phone...

Yes, I could do that. And pretty much untraceable. But what would that make me? Doing that would violate another of my close-held morals - Do Unto Others As You Would Have Them Do Unto You..

In some ways, being an IT geek is like being a doctor, social worker, policeman. You have access to lots and lots of information that other people don't. You have skills that can lever open areas that your partner might not want you to.

Me? I prefer to live in the Matrix. Even though I can go down the rabbit hole and learn "the truth" I'd rather live in the real world and accept what loved ones choose to tell me and not to pry.

Cheers

Legless Edit: Or as my brother put it when I was raging about the breakup of my marriage:

"Baby seals mate"





the last time I was unfaithful was 1988

( Legless Mister Stabby - shanks for the memory, Sat 7 Jun 2008, 16:21, 10 replies)

That is a good moral code you have there.
I have 2 unpardonable sins: cheating and hitting.

As far as spying goes, that just kills the trust for both of you so is never a good idea.
( flirting with badgers What? It sounded good at the time., Sat 7 Jun 2008, 16:39, closed)

question
does punching a sister count as hitting a woman?

I argued no.

Only ever cheated once in my entire life.
(Halfy By light alone, Sat 7 Jun 2008, 16:41, closed)

The Hitting Thing..
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Is right up there.

I've *never* hit a woman in my life.
( Legless Mister Stabby - shanks for the memory, Sat 7 Jun 2008, 16:46, closed)

@ Halfy
I don't think it counts if you are smacking a sibling....that is just normal life as a kid/teenager. But you really should't be dating your sister either.

Of course the hitting thing goes both ways: women shouldn't be hitting men either.
( flirting with badgers What? It sounded good at the time., Sat 7 Jun 2008, 16:55, closed)

Guilt is a fucking pain in the ass.
Doesn't stop us being weak and stupid creatures though.
( girlinthehole, Sat 7 Jun 2008, 17:40, closed)

Hmmm...
1988 eh, thats when i was born!

...Dad?
(Guilt wants to get in your moist confines, Sat 7 Jun 2008, 18:48, closed)

I still wonder though
If maybe you cheated on the then-girlfriends because you needed a reason to get out of the relationship in the first place?
(St. Dymphna, Sat 7 Jun 2008, 21:20, closed)

Hitting!
How about, no hitting anyone? At least if your dating them, I suppose.
Because sometimes people can be right twunts..
(Sock Drawer Demon, Sun 8 Jun 2008, 13:20, closed)

Moral codes
I can understand where you're coming from.. my pet hate is hypocrites, and so a hypocrite is the last thing I want to be. Though you have to be easy on yourself, as well - things happen, whether you intend them to happen or not. We can't predict how we'll act in highly emotional situations (ie stella'd to the eyeballs and being chatted up by Scarlett Johanson).

Hitting though? Fuck that.
( Matoosh would rather like a biscuit, Mon 9 Jun 2008, 16:06, closed)

Glad I'm not the only one that thought this...
I also feel the need to say are you my father?

My coming into this world being 1988 also
(ubergingerspaceninjer last watched you sleep on, Wed 11 Jun 2008, 17:00, closed)