I'm finding this entire conversation very interesting
Learning a lot about different people's attitudes to cheating and revenge.

Cheating comes in many flavours. I've suffered the "I got drunk and ended up sleeping with a guy I fancied" kind.

I've never experienced the kind that KMWIP suffered- and I'm very thankful for that.

Ultimately, I'd say cheating per se is forgiveable. But when coupled with the kind of lying, deceit, betrayal of trust and so on that KMWIP went through- she deserved it. I wouldn't have gone about it the same way, but I certainly find it easier to forgive him than to forgive her.
( Thinker, Tue 30 Sep 2008, 11:10, 1 reply)

No, it's not forgiveable...
As an adult, I have been drunk and stoned very often in my life, but I have never cheated on someone. I've had ex-girlfriends cheat on me, but that's why they are ex-girlfriends. The simple fact is that unless you are raped, there is no point in life when you "have" to have sex with someone.

To say "Oh, I was really drunk so it didn't mean anything" is bullshit pure and simple - you still chose to betray your partner in order to get laid. To say you had no control is a cop-out used by arseholes who feel no compunction in risking everything in order to fuck someone new for a quick thrill. If you feel the need to justify it, you know what you did was wrong and therefore want to find an excuse to make sure you don't get punished/dumped or so that you don't have to feel guilt.

The truth is that if you are an adult, there is no excuse for it and if you do it and get caught out, then you really deserve to be treated like the scum you are.

Having said that, I believe that love and sex are different things, that you can have a mate you shag and there is no commitment, so there is room for no-strings sex, whereas if you commit to a partner, you are saying you'll act like an adult, be faithful and be willing to take the consequences if you break that commitment.
(Chad, Tue 30 Sep 2008, 16:48, closed)