Yeah, what a dick.
His whole world just fell apart so he did the only thing he could face doing and drowned his sorrows. Being drunk and emotional, he happened to behave irrationally and recklessly. Yeah, nothing perfectly understandable about that reaction to grief.
Of course, everbody also lnows that when somebody dies you must, immediately and that very day, put all their affairs in order, or else! It's not smething which can be delayed for a few hours whilst people cry and, you know, come to terms with the death or anything.
(Me, I'm not... in any way intoxicated, Thu 12 Apr 2012, 19:22, 2 replies)

I clicked the wrong one.
But DG is right- you do have to get all stuff under way ASAP, and going out and getting pissed is absolutely ridiculous. And then smashing a plod about is also fucknuggetry of the highest order.
So- unless you've been dealing with a death ever, STFU.
( Duke Of Belmsford has got 99 records, but Jay-Z ain't one, Thu 12 Apr 2012, 20:37, closed)

The man was an arse.
Him and his wife were separated for years due to his constant twattish behaviour, although they still shared a home for some inexplicable reason. His 'world' consisted of whisky, pubs and bookies, he was a selfish, misanthropic tosser who never did anything for anyone else; he went out and did what he did out of self pity rather than any genuine sorrow, because, basically, he knew she would no longer be there to wipe his arse for him.

Practically the first thing he did after the funeral was to shack up with the bint he left his wife for a good twenty years earlier. So yeah, what a dick.
( Davros' Granddad a voice of calm reason in a world of spastics., Thu 12 Apr 2012, 20:49, closed)

If you had said they were seperated and he was a twat to her, I'd have understood.
I'm certainly not condoning his behaviour but had he been grieving I wouldn't have called him a twat for falling apart.
Now you've pointed that out I agree he was a twat.
No, luckily, I havn't dealt with a death but the law gives you five days to register it and the bank doesn't say "the very day of death we must be informed".
Seems when it comes to my turn to deal with a death I will be sent to prison for being grief striken as I don't know that I'd do a good job of sorting anything out the day a loved one died.
(Me, I'm not... in any way intoxicated, Thu 12 Apr 2012, 21:09, closed)

My ex liked to get things done and out of the way.
Including me, it would seem. Badum-tish.
( Davros' Granddad a voice of calm reason in a world of spastics., Thu 12 Apr 2012, 21:15, closed)

Hardy- har.
Yeah, nothing wrong with that at all. Admirable, in fact.
I just thought it a bit off you were calling a poor, old, grief-striken man a twat for delaying the process for a few hours to deal with his grief.
(Me, I'm not... in any way intoxicated, Thu 12 Apr 2012, 21:34, closed)

I probably should have given a bit more back-story.
But it would have gone on forever.
( Davros' Granddad a voice of calm reason in a world of spastics., Thu 12 Apr 2012, 21:50, closed)

Deal with his grief
grief thirst
( Snappyuk gets BIGGER with free sample., Thu 12 Apr 2012, 22:26, closed)

Well. yeah, that too.
Thirst mist be quenched...
(Me, I'm not... in any way intoxicated, Thu 12 Apr 2012, 22:38, closed)