This is terrible, I was not talking down to anyone.

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Thu 15 Nov 2007, 13:33, archived)

Everyone knows you're supposed to go to the police.
Whether or not you want to go is an entirely different matter, because chances are you'll get fucked up more in court than you did during the crime, if you'll pardon my crudeness.
( The Baroness The Harlot Pimpernel, Thu 15 Nov 2007, 13:36, archived)

And hence a proper discusion is about to happen, I hope, where people can express their opinon and prehaps, and unfortunately, experiance.

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Thu 15 Nov 2007, 13:40, archived)

Piss the fuck off, I'm not sharing any experience with the internet.

( The Baroness The Harlot Pimpernel, Thu 15 Nov 2007, 13:44, archived)

I'm not talking about the actual event, or any details, but the aftermath.
Prehaps I know someone in this situation, and infact, do know someone who's been in this situation.

But don't worry about it, we'll limit the topic to cats and lunchtime threads in the future.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Thu 15 Nov 2007, 13:50, archived)

Oh piss off you ignorant, patronising wanker.

( The Baroness The Harlot Pimpernel, Thu 15 Nov 2007, 13:56, archived)

However well-intentioned you were,
of the 11,766 allegations of rape made in 2002 there were just 655 convictions. 11,111 rape victims went through character assassinations and humiliation and were made out to be liars, sluts or idiots - all, no doubt at a huge personal cost to their well-being. For nothing.

How do you think they'd feel about your advice?
( L-Space - scientia sapientes vocat., Thu 15 Nov 2007, 13:58, archived)

^This, this, this, this

( The Baroness The Harlot Pimpernel, Thu 15 Nov 2007, 14:04, archived)

Although that is completely horrifying....
Would you surgest that the person lets them get away with it? or prehaps some sort of vigalantisim?
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Thu 15 Nov 2007, 14:16, archived)

If those eleven thousand victims
had done nothing - not gone to the police, not endured physical examinations, not waited months for the case to come up, not been accused of lying, or of being a slut or completely to blame, then NOT ONE SINGLE EXTRA PERSON would have "got away with it".
It's a tragically poor conviction rate, and it means that 95% of the time it literally is not worth even reporting to the police. And that's just using the reported rape figure. The conviction rate would almost certainly be even lower if every rape was reported.

The assumption that reporting a rape stops someone "getting away with it" is almost always wrong. And no, I don't agree with vigilantism.
( L-Space - scientia sapientes vocat., Thu 15 Nov 2007, 14:31, archived)

Perhaps it wasn't meant to be taken that way.
Unfortunately, giving people ostensibly 'sensible advice' which is rather simplistic and takes no account of what it's really like to be raped is likely to backfire if any of those people have first-hand experience. Rape is hard enough to get over without being made to feel guilty about how you dealt with the aftermath.
( L-Space - scientia sapientes vocat., Thu 15 Nov 2007, 13:41, archived)

All of that

(Psycho Eyes, Thu 15 Nov 2007, 13:48, archived)