But how do you know?
How can a man tell?
Does a little sign light up above your head?

No.
( Wicca'd Witch needs ideas for a new sig on..., Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:39, archived)

How can a man tell if throughout th evening you've given him all the signals that you want to have sex
ie having your hand on his cock

Surely the woman has a responsibility to not encourage such things by her behaviour?
( Mykeyboy A massive, salty filing cabinet, Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:40, archived)

If she says No.
It means no.

If she's incapable of standing up, in capable of speech, incapable of walking, then she is incapable of making an informed decision, and therefore having sex with her, knowing that she is unable to make an informed decision is having sex without consent.

The areas get a little grey when both parties are that pissed, but the onus is always going to be with the more sober of the pair.
( Wicca'd Witch needs ideas for a new sig on..., Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:43, archived)

Wicca, i am all dispair

( SugarSpunSister Yeah, whatever, Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:46, archived)

But lets face it
Most often both parites are pissed

Possibly in your experience but i would imagine not in others men are not all evil monsters intent on rape and violence... it might well be two drunk people and a confluence of events. It really is far from cut and dry as you paint it.
( Mykeyboy A massive, salty filing cabinet, Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:52, archived)

Well he could start by asking
if she says yes, groovy.

Also it's probably fair to say that by the time it gets to that particular act, if she says she's not into the idea then it's safe to say that she's not into the idea.

To be honest I fail to see how anyone could get it wrong, without noticing it wasn't wanted.
( SugarSpunSister Yeah, whatever, Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:44, archived)

I think that's something like flirting.
It doesn't mean a woman should be violently attacked.
( Lisette von Falcon, Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:46, archived)