ThanksI'm not wishing to be a mardy cow about it - it's just that it something that I find diffcult to deal with - especially as I'm a female busdriver and it's so hilarious for all the sexist bastards in Sheffield to say 'Thanks Mate!' 'Thanks Pal!' as they leave my bus - if I was allowed I followed them off and kick them in the balls - if they had any ;) And before anybody jumps to any conclusion it happens to all us female busdrivers not just me.
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maiden is filmed before a live studio audience,
Tue 27 Jan 2009, 13:47,
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I would consider "mate" and "pal" to be relatively unisex, myself.I certainly wouldn't assume anyone using them to a girl was having a dig in some way.
Perhaps it is different in your part of the world. Or perhaps the people who use your bus are arseholes.
Q: Obviously the ideal is "neither", but out of "mate" and "dearie", which would least annoy you?
(Perhaps it is different in your part of the world. Or perhaps the people who use your bus are arseholes.
Q: Obviously the ideal is "neither", but out of "mate" and "dearie", which would least annoy you?
Mockingbird Practitioner of SCIENCE,
Tue 27 Jan 2009, 13:50,
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Well I'm from a different generation thenMate and Pal are definitely not generic terms that can be applied to both sexes - sorry
As a choice to what to be called I'm not all that bothered - a simple 'Thanks' is enough and if they have nothing good to say to me then nothing would be better than Mate or Pal - BTW when I say they call me Mate or Pal they spit the words at me it isn't just a general "Thanks, Mate" because they haven't really taken any notice of the driver.
**EDIT: Sorry for the rant I hope you all don't think I'm totally neurotic and paranoid. I probably need more sleep and beer.
(As a choice to what to be called I'm not all that bothered - a simple 'Thanks' is enough and if they have nothing good to say to me then nothing would be better than Mate or Pal - BTW when I say they call me Mate or Pal they spit the words at me it isn't just a general "Thanks, Mate" because they haven't really taken any notice of the driver.
**EDIT: Sorry for the rant I hope you all don't think I'm totally neurotic and paranoid. I probably need more sleep and beer.
maiden is filmed before a live studio audience,
Tue 27 Jan 2009, 13:52,
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I was on a bus the other day where the (male) driver referred to all passengers as 'mate'.Even little old ladies - bit weird I thought. I think he was just on autopilot.
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The Alchemist king of the needlessly complicated,
Tue 27 Jan 2009, 13:52,
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Yes I think there are a lot of ignorant busdrivers tooI know I work with a lot of them.
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Tue 27 Jan 2009, 13:52,
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