What do you do when
someone you know is getting married and you don't believe it will last?
Don't go to the wedding or stand up and object?
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monkeon schmonkeon, Sun 8 Aug 2021, 22:36,
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People getting married
Doesn’t ask anything of me.
People telling me what I have to perceive them as, does.
(, Mon 9 Aug 2021, 7:57, Reply)
It is asking you to spend lots of money
on a boring day out. It is pretending to be happy for them, when you think it is a mistake. If you are an atheist and they marry in a church, it is performing in a religious ceremony.
It is physically demonstrating a belief you don't believe in.
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monkeon schmonkeon, Mon 9 Aug 2021, 9:44,
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If you are an atheist and they marry in a church, it is performing in a religious ceremony
You seem to be taking someone else's special day and saying "but what about meeeeee?".
If they're friends then go along and play the part. Nobody is asking you to believe in any of this shit. Half the people there don't. And if you can't find a way of enjoying yourself at the reception then just don't go. It costs them a fuckload to cater to you, so don't go and act the miserable teenager.
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evil_andy Stick stick stick stick sticky sticky stick stick, Mon 9 Aug 2021, 20:41,
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I do go along with it. As you say, it's only polite.
Using preferred pronouns is also polite.
I was just curious where someone who "won’t demonstrate belief to a thing I don’t believe in" stands on the issue.
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monkeon schmonkeon, Mon 9 Aug 2021, 21:21,
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Both things are considered “polite”to do
However attending a wedding is not akin to using preferred pronouns, as preferred pronouns can often lead to a situation where they make useful language difficult or impossible - and in fact, that’s the point.
Perhaps people shouldn’t invest so much meaning in the perceptions of others?
(, Tue 10 Aug 2021, 7:01, Reply)