one of those friends who is never around when they have a boyfriend on the go
clearly changed her mind about meeting up and when i rang her, she called my bluff and said "oh, i should've called you yesterday... the tickets to manchester go up drastically overnight... it'll be £20 now and its not really worth it for a day visit."

i decided to save her the embarrassment of telling her that i had already opened national express on internet explorer and could see that the ticket prices were still actually (and would only ever be) only £5.00.

"oh ok then, thats too bad."

and again, she tells me that she's getting a lift with someone instead of getting the train home which means she cant make lunch because they're going in the next couple of hours.

"ok" I go.

her housemate, with whom i am also pals, invites me around but she hasn't told them her fib and i dont mention im going round because ... i dont think she will be there. of course, she is. her response?

"oh gosh, im sorry radiatorlady... i didnt realise he'd keeping me waiting this long."

yes, but he must have suspected that he wasn't going anywhere near to 3 o clock (when we were supposed to meet) because he ended up taking you both back 9 hours later...

again i let this go.

a week later, im supposed to go round and my time keeping skills are appalling. im half-an hour late. im met with an exceedingly frosty reception and the next time we arrange to meet, i get a text going "can you be on time please?"

compare with my best friend who is honest to a fault.

"ladyradiator, i would meet up with you but my boyfriend just called so im blowing you off to see him."

okie dokey.
(ladyintheradiator, Thu 3 Jun 2010, 14:26, 4 replies)

she's not really a very good friend
Trade her in for a new one
(Dwarfsmuggler Has hogtied Snow White, Thu 3 Jun 2010, 14:44, closed)

im preparing for a philosophy exam tomorrow
and apparently our moral behaviour is dependent on situational influences, not personality traits, which fits in nicely...

considerate, reliable, honest friend = without the situational pressure of a boyfriend
hypocritical, unreliable, dishonest friend = with the added situational pressure of a boyfriend

conclusion: personality traits are not good predictors of behaviour. we must examine situational pressures...
(ladyintheradiator, Thu 3 Jun 2010, 17:11, closed)

That's not really correct though is it
Some people who have BFs can still be honest, look at your other friend, she comes straight out and says that she' not going to see you tonight because she's seeing her BF.
(Dwarfsmuggler Has hogtied Snow White, Thu 3 Jun 2010, 17:33, closed)

correct?
yeah i suppose the theory has been criticised a lot. still, im supposed to arguing for it in my essay so im going to convince myself that its true until precisely half 3 tomorrow afternoon.
(ladyintheradiator, Thu 3 Jun 2010, 20:09, closed)