Childish or not? You decide
Three years ago, I disappeared. Completly, and I hope without trace. I didn't fake my death in any way, but I quit my job, moved house, changed my name, car, phone number - everything possible so I couldn't be found.

I haven't seen any of my family, my old school friends, people I used to work with or anyone else in more than three years now. Nor, in the circumstance of my leaving, do I want to. My reason for leaving was due to a lifestyle choice I made, to me a very minor one, but to others it was a huge thing - I have two boyfriends (bring on the trolls!). My family rejected them, I got laughed at at work and all in all wasn't really very nice. So I just left it all behind and started afresh. Childish or not to do that? (Yes, I'm looking for validation. On the INTERNET)
(stimpy, Thu 24 Sep 2009, 8:50, 12 replies)

Two boyfriends?!
You hussy!
(The Kwyjibo A big, dumb, balding North American ape., Thu 24 Sep 2009, 9:17, closed)

Are you sure
you haven't just become a scientologist?
( sandettie light vessel automatic New Twitter - @bollocksreally, Thu 24 Sep 2009, 9:31, closed)

Confused
Bring on the trolls? Is that your preferred look in a man?

Seriously though, the most adult thing to do is to walk away, which you have done. So not childish at all.
(Jester_, Thu 24 Sep 2009, 9:36, closed)

Bring on the trolls
Was a reference to those members who feel it neccessary to decry every slightly unusual story or one about people having sex (although it has to be said, some of the times it is needed to stop people producing some utter crap). I figured that saying that I share my bed with two blokes every night (the same two blokes) would probably attract them like chavs to a stand giving away corsa body kits for free.
(stimpy, Thu 24 Sep 2009, 9:42, closed)

...
I know what a troll is :P
(Jester_, Thu 24 Sep 2009, 9:57, closed)

Nothing wrong with having fun
seems you did what you felt you had to do, so long as you're happy now it doesn't matter.
(Evilweevil is covered in bees, Thu 24 Sep 2009, 9:40, closed)

I've been there.
I had already cut off my family beforehand, but it was hellish at work.
My manager found out (I was scared of sounding like I was lying about my personal life by mixing up stories involving 'my boyfriend', so came clean at work in a frank and detail-free explanation).

She took me aside for a meeting about 'multiple partners' and discussing my 'offensive lifestyle' at work (I desperately wanted not to, but people had started walking up to me and asking me about specific details of my boudiour activities, I kept having to fend them off cos I didn't want a part of it). I tearfully tried to illustrate to her Grand Bovine-ness how my personal life was just as protected by law as a co-worker's open religious beliefs (two years later I was fobbed off after trying to complain about this guy's homophobic anecdotes at a work event), but she wasn't having any of it.

My life was desperately uncomfortable, and my progress in my career was held back by that manager's opinion for more than a year even after the relationship ended.

I think you made a brave choice, and hope that life works out for you.
(Angie the Redneck Wonder, Thu 24 Sep 2009, 9:56, closed)

My choice wasn't really brave
I have a habit of running when things get tough. No way could I have stuck it out at work as long as you did - I was out like a flash when people started making comments.
(stimpy, Thu 24 Sep 2009, 10:28, closed)

There's a big difference between running away and trying to start again.
Usually that difference is the way you look at it.
( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Thu 24 Sep 2009, 11:27, closed)

Fair play on your lifestyle choice.
However, you aren't going out with Cactus Kid, are you?

/ducks
( jim_bob can herd cats., Thu 24 Sep 2009, 10:00, closed)

Lifestyle choice
I find that an interesting use of words (when said by others) referring to being gay, makes it sound like they have an option to be gay. I digress.

I think it is sad, that in this day and age, you felt/feel like you have to hide from your family/others about this. It is not like you are hurting anyone.

When i first read "two boyfriends" I thought of the joke. Three gay men in a bed, which one is the skier? the one in the middle.

StyX
(StyX is staring at you, yes YOU!!!, Thu 24 Sep 2009, 11:44, closed)

*cough*female*cough*
Although, I am the one in the middle normally. I like being cuddled.
(stimpy, Thu 24 Sep 2009, 12:40, closed)