I think
that depends entirely on the reason for cheating.

If he cheated because he fell in love with the new woman and then chose to be with the new woman in all honestly, like this guy did. Then I don't think the rule applies really.
(darras jeg har en grevling i hodet. Grevling, grevlang, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 13:33, 1 reply)

But what about
the next new woman? Every business trip he ever makes, SnowmanSnails will (or should) be thinking ... "Who's he met this time? Who's watching the clock waiting for him?"

In fact it's worse, because his form isn't just a quick away-match shag then some guilt-ridden flowers from the garage. It's carrying on secret affairs, dumping wives and moving out. He's done it before. The statistics show that he's very likely (four times as much, iirc) to do it again.

If he gives you a BMW catalogue, SnowmanSnails, get a lawyer.
(ubergeekian, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 13:53, closed)

sometimes
the first marriage is a mistake.

Stastics can show that sure, but that still only gives you a generalisation. And sure, the majority of men who cheat will do it again because they're ratbags and assholes.

But some who do it because they made a genuine mistake with their first marriage, then realised what they had to do to change this by meeting somebody new, will then go on to spend the rest of their lives happily monogomous.(sp)

So... I don't know which this guy is here in this story.

I'm just saying that it's possible (not probable) that a man who cheats once will never do it again.
(darras jeg har en grevling i hodet. Grevling, grevlang, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 14:35, closed)

Some of you may think me naive
But what darras says is true - first marriage was a mistake and I was simply the catalyst for ending it. From first kiss to moving in together took 2 months, and we have not spent a night apart since July 2006 (which is actually a bit sad!)

I concur in a general sense with the "once a cheat always a cheat" philosophy, I would never do it and it would be over toot sweet if anyone did it to me, but to totally contradict myself, I cheated (only a kiss!) on an ex, and it was the act of cheating that made me realise things had gone tits up with that partnership, so we split up. I think there's a difference between serial cheaters and cheating being a catalyst for ending a relationship that is already dead.

Just my twopenn'orth!
(SnowmanSnails, Thu 11 Dec 2008, 12:30, closed)