Sort of, but not really.
Sometimes I kick myself for having stayed with my ex for 5 years. He was emotionally abusive, and though that sort of abuse leaves no bruises, it can take a happy confident girl and transform her into a self doubting depressed wreck. He had me convinced that everything I liked was "silly" or "dumb", that the fact that I have a sex drive made me a crazy bitch, and that my friends were wastes of space that I should no longer hang out with. I isolated myself from the world, trying to please an unpleasable man. The slightest error on my part would send him into deep depressive sulks, and the only way to appease him was to beg and plead for forgiveness. When I say "errors", I mean such dastardly deeds as putting his newspaper on the wrong side of his plate during dinner ("Don't you pay attention to ANYTHING? Do you even CARE about me??"), and offering to give him a blowjob while he was playing video games ("Can't you see I'm busy? God, what is WRONG with you??").

It was 5 years of this hell, day in and day out. I am STILL, a year later, picking up the pieces of my mind and soul.

You know what, though? If I could go back in time, I wouldn't change a thing. Not because I enjoyed the hell of my previous relationship, but because everything I have done in my life thus far has lead me to my new one. My new man is everything I could ever want. He's my best friend, my confidant, and is always on my side. He has supported me through difficult times, and has made it quite clear that he isn't going anywhere. I can actually rely on him! Also, he is both as goofy as I am and has a sex drive as high as mine (even higher sometimes, and that's a feat!). Add to all that the fact that he is devilishly handsome, extremely talented (both in and out of the bedroom), bilingual, and well hung, and I'd say I'm a very lucky girl.

If I'd known then that on the other side of 5 years of hell was a man like this, I think I would have been skipping and whisling the whole damn time!
(Audienda, Mon 27 Sep 2010, 14:59, 12 replies)

I had to give that a click
It sounds so familiar to me, it's amazing how low a state you can find yourself in isn't it.
Glad it's turned out great for you (it has for me too).
(cmouse is pondering about life in other jobs, Mon 27 Sep 2010, 15:24, closed)

I think
he may have been a repressed homosexual. I got a BJ playing world of warcraft once and loved it! I remember thinking how great Mrs. Arrow was and felt like a real jammy bastard afterwards. You definitely made the right decision.
(bROKEN aRROW PUA HVI Master, Mon 27 Sep 2010, 15:25, closed)

Please tell me
You shouted "Leeeeeeeeroy Jenkins!!" as you were on your vinegars.
( jim_bob can herd cats., Mon 27 Sep 2010, 20:39, closed)

Haha!
Well....She asked to stick a finger up my arse at the same time,I refused, guess I was too chicken
(bROKEN aRROW PUA HVI Master, Tue 28 Sep 2010, 15:46, closed)

Good for you, honey!
It's stuff like this that makes me keep on keeping on. No offence but if it can happy to the meretricious dregs of society that congregate here, there's hope for a towering waste of food like me too. *judgetheobscure cries a bit and treats himself to lonely wank*
(judgetheobscure used to sweep in butchers' shops., Mon 27 Sep 2010, 15:42, closed)

I love how
you say he's bilingual before you says he's well hung! I see where your priorities lie. Unless you mean he actually has two tongues?
(Smale is stuffed, Mon 27 Sep 2010, 16:21, closed)

Obviously you've never
had somebody whisper in Italian to you while you're making love. It's AMAZING.
(Audienda, Mon 27 Sep 2010, 17:47, closed)

Like cmouse and yourself, I've been there and found an utter diamond on the other side
So yay for us :)
( SugarSpunSister Yeah, whatever, Mon 27 Sep 2010, 19:00, closed)

To good relationships!
That does sound familiar! Makes me want to write about my experience even thought that was only about 20 months or so. But it sure seems longer on the inside!
(Cockroach-Sombrero Cook Pass Babtridge, Mon 27 Sep 2010, 19:02, closed)

Ahhhh
Similar story with me, though my story is milder and less qotw-worthy. 'Tis good when it all works out :)
(KeenBean objects to this comma, Mon 27 Sep 2010, 19:06, closed)

Curious ...
how a bad relationship makes you appreciate a good one.
(Que?, Tue 28 Sep 2010, 5:20, closed)

I just can't get over
the fact he said no to a bj during a game... surely that is heaven?

Glad you've got someone decent now though, he is a lucky man =]
(TaZ44, Tue 28 Sep 2010, 9:27, closed)