my middle name should have been 'welcome'
This is actually kind of sad in hindsight, but I spent a good few years being a total doormat.

*Picking people up/ giving lifts at any time of day or night, never asking for petrol money.
*Lending money to all and sundry, and feeling embarrassed to ask for it back.
*Rubbing backs, holding back hair, cleaning up vomit.
*Getting morning after pills for promiscuous friends.
*Trying to learn to skateboard - why all my friends were 17 year old boys when i was a 21 year old girl i still can't quite fathom.

It was a couple of years ago that I realised that its not me that was a super good person, its that my so called friends were in fact not good people, and since then I've made it a priority that all my friends are not people that will take advantage of my good nature.
(spent.fish flipping and gasping, Thu 15 Jan 2009, 14:56, 5 replies)

Couldn't agree more...
My old history teacher was an objectionable old harridan, but she did instil one pearl of wisdom into me:

"A friend in need is not a friend."
(LongJohnBaldry, Thu 15 Jan 2009, 15:22, closed)

She was a stupid old harridan too then
as the meaning of the saying is about having a friend during one's own time of need, rather than having a needy friend.
(Juan Quar is clinging to her front teeth on, Thu 15 Jan 2009, 18:25, closed)

I wish...
I really really wish my younger brother could have that same epiphany.
(xanthine, Fri 16 Jan 2009, 3:37, closed)

Good for you!
But "Spent Welcome Fish" would be a very, very silly name.
(EffinDoubt is breaking glass on, Fri 16 Jan 2009, 8:03, closed)

Here here!
Nicely put. There are too many awful people out there but there are plenty of good ones too... Its just that their harder to find.
( SpankyHanky, Fri 16 Jan 2009, 16:51, closed)