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Back when young ScaryDuck worked in the Dole office rather than simply queuing in it, he had to deal with a claimant brought in by his mum. She did all the talking. He was 40 years old.

Have you had to deal with over-protective parents? Get your Dad to tell us all about it.

(, Thu 10 Sep 2009, 15:13)
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Not me, but a friend.........'s mum
One of my best friends is the oldest of four boys, all well rounded individuals in their own right, and all with their own talents. Two of them are in IT, another training as a Aeronautical Engineer, and my mate a very talented musician.

Their mother, although a very 'world-smart' woman that I have a lot of respect for, has completely smothered them all to the point where their personal development lags behind their chronological years.

My mate is 26, has recently moved from the family home to a place with his girlfriend, my understanding is that his mum now does all the washing/ironing for him and his missus, and buys them food. It was bad enough that up until he left home she used to serve as his personal alarm clock.

Next youngest, 24, moved straight from the family home to a house with his fiancé, bless him he found a girl with the same attitude as his ma -again, a lovely woman, but a bit too eager to please in my book.

Next youngest, 21, still lives at home, works in IT, but has no need to do any housework/washing/ironing and (my understanding is) doesn't pay any rent, and when asked if he would mind contributing to the household in hard times told his folks "I can't afford it, I just bought a new car"

Youngest of the brood, the trainee plane maker, takes the biscuit. He must be 17/18 by this point. Treats the place like a hotel, swears at his folks routinely, doesn't contribute, doesn't pay rent. However, the point that stood out to me most was when I walked into their living room recently and found him curled up on the sofa, with his thumb in his mouth, and his head resting contently in his mothers lap while she stroked his hair.

Again, they're all talented and nice guys in their own right, but I do think they have some sort of co-dependent relationship with their poor mother, the gal lives to please them and I wonder what she'd going to do when they've all been married off.
(, Wed 16 Sep 2009, 7:50, 5 replies)
Does she give him bitty?
(, Wed 16 Sep 2009, 7:55, closed)
I reckon
...she's way ahead of you. That's why she's trying to gay-ify the youngest!

(*not, of couse, my personal opinion that GBLT people are bound to be alone or are influenced by mothers' smothering. Just a joke).
(, Wed 16 Sep 2009, 12:31, closed)
We do wonder about the youngest, he doesn't seem to be interested in the opposite sex at all....
(, Wed 16 Sep 2009, 19:22, closed)
Are you sure
this wasn't a documentary on BBC3?

If not, then I suggest you email the BBC about them, because there's a reality/ fly-on-the-wall show dying to be made.
(, Wed 16 Sep 2009, 13:04, closed)
I have an acquaintance who is the mother in this scenario. No one has yet managed to persuade her that the fact her adult offspring are incapable of looking after themselves is not something to be proud and happy about... still, it makes her feel needed which I think is the point of the whole thing.
(, Wed 16 Sep 2009, 16:13, closed)

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