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Back when young ScaryDuck worked in the Dole office rather than simply queuing in it, he had to deal with a claimant brought in by his mum. She did all the talking. He was 40 years old.

Have you had to deal with over-protective parents? Get your Dad to tell us all about it.

(, Thu 10 Sep 2009, 15:13)
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My story - not funny
Not a very nice story but here we go.

I was sexually abused from the age of eight until I left home at sixteen by my brother. During most of this period I was too scared to tell anyone. My brother said if I did he'd kill me and I beleived him. Eventually I told my parents. This was when I was nearly sixteen and had missed my period. I was so scared I might be pregnant. My brother never raped me but he did things which I could possibly have gotten pregnant by doing, things I don't want to ever talk about with anyone. I went and told my mum and burst out crying. And she didn't beleive me. She stuck up for my brother and said he was such a nice boy and would never do anything like this. She accused me of sleeping round with the boys at school - not true, I hated sex and still do to this day because of what happened.

Turns out I wasn't pregnant. I was just stressed and that had stopped my periods. Then in the few weeks (seemed like years) while I figured out how to get myself out of that situation, my parents ignored me. They concentrated on my brother and how great he was at everything. Made me sick. Made me very ill.

And then one day I just left. Walked out and never went back. I'd sorted out accomodation through a charity and it was a good stop gap. Got a job in the local supermarket. Never looked back. Never spoke to any member of my family again. Might sound harsh, but I just never saw the point. They live 200 miles away from me now and it might as well be another country because I'm never going back.

I closed this chapter on my life for good when I left. Never took it any further as I don't think anyone would beleive me. I beleive everyone gets what they deserve in the end, and I imagine my so called helicopter parents (with regards to my brother anyway) and my brother will get what they deserve, eventually.

Thanks for reading and sorry for lack of funnies. Normal service from spanky and the others can resume now.
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:03, 34 replies)
You should be proud
for having the strength to get out as young as you were - clicks
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:04, closed)
Not wanting to tell you how to run your life
but shouldn't you go to the authorities about this? I mean, this brother of yours sounds dangerous.

And well done for getting out when you did and building your own independant life. Kudos all round to ya!
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:06, closed)
I get asked this by the few people I've told about this in real life
but I don't think it would do any good. He only seemed to do this with me. Think it was a power and control thing. But thanks for your concern :-)
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:09, closed)
But surely it's possible that he might be doing the same thing to someone else now?
Well done anyway though, I can't begin to imagine how horrible it must have been for you.
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:32, closed)
I know it sounds strange
but when I left for my own sanity I had to put it all behind me. I know it sounds horrible but if I think about it too much I think it might drive me mad. That was three years ago now and I'm just starting to come to terms with who I am and that what happened was just wrong and not my fault. I know its bad, but I just dont think I can face getting involved in it all again.
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:36, closed)
While I never went through anything like this...
...I too left home at sixteen due to other forms of abuse and neglect. It took me a lot longer than you to wake up and stop contact, and I went through a lot of fucked-up relationships as I don't hate sex myself, and was left with zero self-esteem.

I know so much about your journey without having meet you, and salute your strength in being better than me in a bad situation.

They will get what is coming to them.
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:16, closed)
Thanks :-)
the fact you got out of it yourself is amazing. Well done to you. As for the sex thing I'm getting better. It's just taking some time and I have a very understanding, loving partner. x
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:20, closed)
It's very brave of you to post this...
...especially given the fact that cathartic posts seem to be very much frowned on at present.

It must take a lot of strength to be able to close that chapter on your life and move on like that, I do hope you continue to thrive away from the less than benign influence of your family.

(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:20, closed)
'things I don't want to ever talk about with anyone'
apart from total strangers on the internet.
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:32, closed)
Judging by the amount of posts on QOTW
you must really enjoy it?
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:34, closed)
It helps to talk to complete strangers
with anonimity on my side. It really helps.
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:34, closed)
Let's talk about it.
How is this about Helicopter Parents?
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:36, closed)
How about
shutting up, you cuntswoggle.
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:41, closed)
I thought she wanted to talk about it?

(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:42, closed)
Drop the 'S'
Cuntwoggle is much better
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:43, closed)
Done and Done.
She may want to talk about it: but I don't want to read your snipey little comments.
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:44, closed)
*thumbs up to lé prickly pickle*
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:45, closed)
You don't have to read or comment on this
You also don't have to try and get a rise out of a nineteen year old girl whos rebuilding her life after being sexually abused. But I really have to say if you think your goading me into being upset you really are clueless. Im much stronger than you. Ive had to be. So stop it and go away or carry on and look like the idiot you are. I really dont care. Oh and everyone else - thanks for your kind comments. They really help! Beleive me! x
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:44, closed)
I'm guessing you didn't read my Gaz.

(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:51, closed)
What's the purple link?

(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:52, closed)

(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:54, closed)
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 14:11, closed)
I could do a screengrab with a mousehover but I can't be bothered.

(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 14:18, closed)
probably a link to his reply here.

(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:54, closed)
You could argue
that her parents were over protective of her brother.

But the main illogicality that stands out is if she refuses to talk to any authorities, how will her brother (and parents) get what they deserve, ie, a stretch at her majesty's pleasure and an entry on the sex offenders' register?

To Great Amy herself, I sincerely hope you're just trolling the board with a delicate subject, but if not, then you surely cannot be one of the unknown victims of abusers who get away with it 'because you want to put it all behind you'. At some point, your brother may get married and his wife will most likely suffer the same fate, but she may not be as strong as you are and will spend years in torment and misery. Heaven forbid if he gets married and has a daughter...

Do the right thing and report the cunt.
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:57, closed)
I tend to agree with this little statement
put right here via the magic of the internet. I really would report the cunt. I know it might be hard but sounds like he needs some time at Her Majestys pleasure being anally raped in the showers by some big fucker named Dwayne from Brixton.
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 14:01, closed)
I'm leaving before this thread becomes a repeat of 'raped and killed... RESULT'

(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 14:03, closed)
Fuck off.
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 14:06, closed)
How rude.

(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 14:09, closed)
christ almighty... That's horrible....
I'm glad to hear you're out of there now, and are rebuilding your life...
*Click - although "I Like This" really isn't quite what I mean*
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 13:56, closed)
You've showed true strength
The best way of getting your own back is to live your life exactly as you want to, to be the best at everything you want to be and to be happy. I found that (following non-sexual abuse so nothing anywhere near as bad as you experienced) that therapy helped - you may want to give it some thought - gaz me if you would like further thoughts from me on this. And ignore the trolls below they're just cunts.
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 14:04, closed)
Trolls my arse
Yes she's shown strength by leaving, but she should use that strength again and make sure he doesn't do it again to someone else. Otherwise, the evil bastard's got away with it.

and I bet you're all thinking the same, but no one dare say it.
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 14:14, closed)
I agree - to clarify
I that an approach to the rozzers would be good - however therapy might help to be able to face getting to that stage. My comments re the trolling were to do with other comments - not reporting to the filth.
(, Thu 17 Sep 2009, 14:16, closed)

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