Totally unrelated but I have to get this off my chest
I've posted a few tales regarding my marriage break up. Whilst I have found it cathartic in a way that talking to my shrink wasn't, it's all been done in context of that week's particular question. Mostly. I may have gone off on a tangent at some point...

However...

Whilst the circumstances behind my marriage break up led to my meeting the sweary one, and has led me to extreme happiness and b3ta, I found out the other day that my ex has a terminal brain tumour, and has a few months to live at best. This has left me a bit shellshocked to say the least.

This probably isn't the right forum for this, but do I care? Do I fuck.

Pauline, I would just like to say that I would never have wished this on you. I have known you for almost half of my life, and I sincerely hope that you get to do what you want to do in your remaining time. My thoughts are with you, and I have never regretted the time we had together, not once.

Even though you don't read this, my brother and sister send their love. I hope I can pass this on in person at some point.

Michael.

x
( Davros' Granddad a voice of calm reason in a world of spastics., Fri 7 Mar 2008, 1:37, 9 replies)

Jesus...
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Good job this isn't the karma question. Bit harsh even for karma though.

Remind me not to piss you off. Somebody up there likes you
( Legless Mister Stabby - shanks for the memory, Fri 7 Mar 2008, 1:57, closed)

Hmm...
I'm still in a state of numbness to be honest.

And, for some reason, my head hurts. Probably the beer and wine and market failure workshop I've been on today in That There London.
( Davros' Granddad a voice of calm reason in a world of spastics., Fri 7 Mar 2008, 2:06, closed)

:(
I hope you get to pass your message on. I know what you mean about B3ta too, I've wrote more about my marriage split in the QOTW's than I've told anyone else, comes out my fingers easier than it does my mouth. I can imagine how you feel.
( baw__bag contains traces of nuts on, Fri 7 Mar 2008, 5:45, closed)

...
*concentrates very, very hard on sending supportive feelings*
( crackhouseceilidhband Fuck off back to Mumsnet, Fri 7 Mar 2008, 8:05, closed)

*Virtual hug*
There's plenty of people pissed me off big style but I would never wish that on them.
( girlinthehole, Fri 7 Mar 2008, 8:05, closed)

No disrespect to b3ta
But get there and see her and do it properly.

This will only make you feel better, not her.

You care, go and tell her

And I send good thoughts to you and her
(Jugular, Fri 7 Mar 2008, 9:17, closed)

DG
Am sorry to hear the news mate.

I agree that posting here is incredibly cathartic, having been able to express things on b3ta about my own ex in comedic fashion that I'd never be able articulate by any other means. However, I'd never in a million years wish any harm to befall her and were I in a similar situation to you I hope I'd be a decent enough human being to handle it with something approaching the dignity and humanity that you've expressed here.

All I can do now is send you, the sweary one and of course your ex my bestest karma.

P
(Bicycle Repairman "you're also a bit of a wanker", Fri 7 Mar 2008, 10:38, closed)

Thanks all
For some reason she didn't want me to know about it - I found out in a roundabout manner. So going to see her isn't an option right now, not until I know that she is agreeable.

Life's a bitch, and no mistake.
( Davros' Granddad a voice of calm reason in a world of spastics., Fri 7 Mar 2008, 13:02, closed)