what a shitbag
you really need to tell him to fuck off
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 10 Jan 2011, 11:15, 1 reply, 15 years ago)

It is truly not worth the hassle
He can be a awful shitcunt when crossed, it's easier just to keep him sweet even if it does nearly cause me to rupture myself with suppressed fury. Take this for an example: he told (not asked!) me he was coming down and that he'd be at the station for 4pm. I told him I didn't finish work til 5 and then had to go straight out and wouldn't be in til 8.30. This caused so much huffing and flouncing that I actually ended up leaving work early to pick the cunt up and being late for the thing I had to do afterwards. He's 35 for fucks sake. I swear he is not only bloody retarded but autistic as well.
(berk, Mon 10 Jan 2011, 11:25, Reply)

So let him be flouncing and flustered.
Why do you have to keep him sweet anyway? Fuck him and his lack of manners.

For example; next time he tells you he's coming down, tell him he's not because it's not convenient. Done.
( Kroney, Mon 10 Jan 2011, 11:27, Reply)

exactly this
he may be an awful shitcunt when crossed but if you have nothing to do with him then you won't know.

life is too short to put up with that shit
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 10 Jan 2011, 11:32, Reply)

it's not that easy
He'll piss and whinge to the parents to such an extent that they'll ring me and tell me to be nice because they can't stand him or his whimging any more than I can. He doesn't even do it that deliberately, he just has no social skills whatsoever and either can't tell or doesn't care that he pisses people off.
(berk, Mon 10 Jan 2011, 11:37, Reply)

None of that is your problem.
He's only doing this because you let him.
( Kroney, Mon 10 Jan 2011, 11:40, Reply)

Hang on ....so he's older than you?
Christ...I assumed from your earlier descriptions that he was some younger spawning that hadn't quite "left home" and so could possibly-tenuously be given the benefit of the doubt as he maybe didn't know any better. But 35? You'd expect people to know how to behave themselves by that age (Monty possibly excepted). Why do the parents put up with his shit?
(LongJohnBaldry, Mon 10 Jan 2011, 11:42, Reply)

Because his dad just shakes his head and ignores it
and neither mum nor I can bring ourselves to be as brutally rude as we would need to be for him to get the message. He lived with me for about 18 months when I was 17 and he nearly gave me a nervous breakdown (not a lolmental one, a real one). And yes, a full 10 years older than me.
(berk, Mon 10 Jan 2011, 12:18, Reply)

So did he come to visit you, or did he invite himself down because he had other things to do?

( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Mon 10 Jan 2011, 11:30, Reply)

No no
he came down to visit me, mostly because he wanted me to put him up and feed him whilst he went to photograph trains and planes, but he wanted to spend time with me in the evenings when I wasn't at work. It wasn't just a 'oh can I crash on your sofa whilst I go to this thing, kthxbai'
(berk, Mon 10 Jan 2011, 12:16, Reply)