A friend of my sister fostered a blue eyed, blonde haired boy who looked like an angel.
He had lots of problems due to his parents being heroin addicts. To see him blossom under her care was wonderful. She's just a normal mum with some training in childcare and all she did was love him and care for him.
( girlinthehole, Sun 13 Feb 2011, 18:02, 1 reply, 15 years ago)

Sadly often all these children need is to be loved and cared for
but it's something the parents can't or won't do.
We had a family of children all of whom were taken into care after the school got involved.
The mum just wasn't coping and the children were dirty and not being fed.
The first day they came back to school in clean clothes and the girls all had ribbons in their hair I think every member of staff cried.

All any child needs is to be loved, fed, kept clean and warm but this seems to be so difficult for so many people.
( Mrs Entity is in hiding., Sun 13 Feb 2011, 18:08, Reply)

But it bloody shouldn't be
it's the easiest thing in the world, for most people at least, to love and nuture a child. If you can't manage it, don't get pregnant. It's just wrong that so many children are failed on so many levels.
(berk, Sun 13 Feb 2011, 18:12, Reply)

And given that, for women at least. contraception
has never been easier to use or more readily available, there is no excuse.
You can get an implant that keeps you baby free for 3 years.
( Mrs Entity is in hiding., Sun 13 Feb 2011, 18:14, Reply)

I'm pretty sure I would be shit at it
it doesn't sound easy to me at all
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Sun 13 Feb 2011, 18:16, Reply)

I don't have kids
but I interact with them a fair bit, what with the babysitting and my nephew and stuff. You can't help but love the little buggers even when they are being their most trying. That really is easy. And it's not particularly difficult to make sure a child is clean and well fed, nor to teach it reading, writing etc etc. And if you do it right it's so rewarding to see them grow. People who have kids for benefits, or because they don't know any better, or to be a pawn in a relationship, and who then fail to take care of those children...christ, it makes me furious. Think first, for fucks sake - these are real people that you're fucking up.
(berk, Sun 13 Feb 2011, 18:21, Reply)