I think you're all being a bit hard.
Not all of you, but most of you above _are_ paired off, and let's be honest here, if you wern't happy being pared off (eg, it wasn't a good thing), you wouldn't be doing it.

When does anyone get married for the right reasons and is unhappy about it?

Marridge isn't for everyone, even relationships aren't for everyone, but if you want to be single, then no one can stop you, you just simply are. It's a default. But for those who do want a family life, or someone to share their life with, or anything like that... then it could be depressing in the long term not to be in that possition.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:24, 2 replies, latest was 15 years ago)

SIX LONG YEARS WITH ONLY MY CAT, GONZ
I shouldn't be lumped in with paired-off people who have no idea about being single. Yeah sometimes you'd like someone to snuggle up with, but mostly it's boss, and it makes you choosy. It doesn't make you choosy about dates in general, hell I'm anyone's after a few G&Ts, but it makes you know what you want when you properly get with someone.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:28, Reply)

You're saying six years like it's a long time for a bad thing.
What I mean is, if being single is what you want, then no one can stop you. If being in a relationship is what you want, then it requires others.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:45, Reply)

Aye it does require others
But allowing the sight of happy paired-off people to depress you is not a good place to be. Nor will it find you someone ace any sooner.
I'm not putting you in that bracket. I'm not criticising anyone who's actively looking, I'm just saying certain approches to it will eat you up and make you not pleasant to go out with.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:50, Reply)

Yup, deffo, nobody wants to be with someone who's negative all the time, but I don't think bert/amber is at that place yet.

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 13:01, Reply)

I hope you mean berk haha
and hopefully you're right. I don't think I give off desperate vibes
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 13:02, Reply)

Hah, yah'.
Nah', neither of you gave me that impression at all... much to Supermatt's disapointment ,)
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 13:08, Reply)

Oh no, I never said desperate.
And I didn't mean desperate either.
I mean that little disappointment you get when someone else pairs off. Leave em to it. Your time will come or not. In the meantime, be happy as Larry. No matter who you end up with, YOU have to be happy as you. You're not 'failing' by being single. They're not 'succeeding'.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 13:13, Reply)

I am paired off and happily so
but my point is that it is my choice to get a mortgage and get married and all that business. That's the important thing. Do what you want to and damn what anyone else thinks you out to be doing
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:30, Reply)

No, it wasn't you're choice, it was your _and_ your misse's choice.

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:46, Reply)

believe it or not
some decisions in a relationship are 50/50. If one of us didn't want to do it then we wouldn't have done.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:47, Reply)

That is exactly what I'm saying.

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:49, Reply)

having read your response to Roota
I now understand what you were getting at.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:51, Reply)

That it takes two people to become a couple, but it only takes yourself to become single.

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:53, Reply)

Is that a proverb, did you make it up?

( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:54, Reply)

Just made it up, good, innit =)

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 13:01, Reply)

it is
unfortunately it has made me get the lyrics "it only takes a minute girl, to fall in love, to. fall. in. looove" stuck in my head
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 13:04, Reply)

that is true
the point I was trying to make earlier is that no one should feel pressured to find a partner because of expectations from others. If someone does want to be with someone then it can be depressing not being able to find anyone, but there's no time limit, and no reason not enjoy yourself.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:55, Reply)

Vip's final word.

( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:57, Reply)

Oh'aye', but I doubt the only reason they wanna be in a relationship is due to outside pressure.

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 13:07, Reply)

true
but it is one factor that berk mentioned
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 13:19, Reply)