no no, he will never be allowed to see this side of my brain
whether we get married or whether he dumps me tonight! i am just not contacting him until he contacts me, and we'll see how long he leaves it...

i've had a guy do this before, where he went from loads of daily texts/emails/filthy phone calls to virtually nothing. it was so transparent that i asked him a couple of times if he wanted to stop things, thinking this would make it easier. only for him to say "no, i have no idea what you're talking about, everything's fine". then, after making me waste precious holiday time (which is now fucking up my plans for the rest of the year), only then did he decide i had been right and he had gone off the whole idea. i wasn't bothered about him, but oh em gee, i was mighty mad about those wasted holiday days!

i know you shouldn't blame the current guy for the last one, but my mind now wants to look for patterns.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Wed 10 Aug 2011, 14:03, 1 reply, 15 years ago)

Seriously, chill the fuck out
Dont text him and after a few days he will get back to you and probably ask what the matter is. He probably expects you to text him and then him to respond
( sporters I’m sincerely gratitude to you, Wed 10 Aug 2011, 14:06, Reply)

if he leaves it a few days before getting in touch at all
the matter will be that i have taken someone else up on their offer!

(i am only being a tioy bit serious here. although the other guy is very cute.)
( rachelswipe with a fork, Wed 10 Aug 2011, 14:09, Reply)

I don't think a few days is too long at all!
It's not like you are living together
( sporters I’m sincerely gratitude to you, Wed 10 Aug 2011, 14:11, Reply)

it's not about the amount of texts
it's about the CHANGE in behaviour from him initiating 50% or more of the contact and texting/emailing maybe 3-5 times per day (just short ones, no essays) to nothing.

and i don't know if that signifies comfort or loss of interest. but getting upset about it has now made me lose interest!
( rachelswipe with a fork, Wed 10 Aug 2011, 14:14, Reply)