depends
but yeah, family lawyers can unpick it more than most. esp if you have kids.

the main thing to watch out for is if you are putting more cash in than the other party. otherwise it doesn't really matter.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Thu 9 Feb 2012, 15:11, 1 reply, 13 years ago)

The court will always start from the position it's a 50:50 split if no kids.
You'd have to go some to get anything else. Deed of trust would count the same as a pre-nup - ie fuck all unless the marriage was short. Investment of time is the same as money in a divorce so being a higher contributor is irrelevent unless you can somehow prove the other party had been hiding money away or blowing it on their own lifestyle. Been there, done that, sold the t-shirt to cover the legal fees.
( the mighty badger Aphrodite, on a bar stool, by your side, Thu 9 Feb 2012, 15:15, Reply)

This makes me sad.

(Set your faces to Stunned Bigly, Thu 9 Feb 2012, 15:18, Reply)

I think the concept is reasonably fair, actually.
the problem is usually the execution.
( the mighty badger Aphrodite, on a bar stool, by your side, Thu 9 Feb 2012, 15:19, Reply)

If the marriage is short
you're entitled to take back what you brought in, so if you had a lot before you were married you'd get that back - but much over 5 years and even that doesn't apply.
( the mighty badger Aphrodite, on a bar stool, by your side, Thu 9 Feb 2012, 15:18, Reply)

i've never done family law, so i am vague there. it's kind of a grey overlap
but i HAVE succeeded on a deed of trust where the husband put in 90% and the wife 10%. however, she may have baulked at the fees and backed down.

ah, they'd only been married 3 years. maybe that explains it.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Thu 9 Feb 2012, 15:19, Reply)

pricing the other person out of the game with legal fees
is how it usually works.
( the mighty badger Aphrodite, on a bar stool, by your side, Thu 9 Feb 2012, 15:22, Reply)

it's a key factor in 90% of my negotiations
only insurers and seriously high net worth individuals with a point of "principle" ignore it.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Thu 9 Feb 2012, 15:27, Reply)

WOOLFE WILL BE FURIOUS !!!!!!

( Light In Chains maker of the ikea sofa, Thu 9 Feb 2012, 15:36, Reply)

haha i've met him
all i could think of to say was "nice speech".

he must have thought i was a scarlet gibbering idiot.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Thu 9 Feb 2012, 15:39, Reply)

Yeah, I ent got a fucking clue what to say to the great and good, so I keep me trap shut and look stupid, it's worked so far.

( Light In Chains maker of the ikea sofa, Thu 9 Feb 2012, 15:55, Reply)

Takes a bow for insurers.

(Set your faces to Stunned Bigly, Thu 9 Feb 2012, 15:41, Reply)