the thing is, your perception of physical attraction varies once you get to know the person
so for online dating or a pub hook-up, it's key, and for a lot of people it won't move beyond the first impression for something so transient. but if it's someone you know through work, or as a friend, or through friends at a party, or your sister in some people's cases, your perception does change. i have so many friends who are blissfully happily married to someone who is the exact opposite of what they think is hot - yet now they'd tell you that person is the hottest person on the planet, and they mean it.

we all know you love a bit of curvaceous ginge.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:44, 1 reply, 12 years ago)

This is very true, meaning I agree whole heartedly
Aad I suppose this means I should stop picking on PJ as he's clearly in love with his wife, a deplorable state of affairs, but forgiveable none the less.

not so much of the ginge....
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:46, Reply)

he thinks she's hot, great, good for him
but if he were saying, she's dreadful and she cheated on me, but i forgive her because she's just sooooo hot, THEN he'd be a dick.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:49, Reply)