I'm not saying it shouldn't be an issue
but it also shouldn't be what defines you as a person. I've known some people who've overcome some dark stuff in their time and they've emerged as relatively normal sane loving people. Possibly because of it, but more so through strength of character.
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Wed 3 Jun 2009, 19:29, 1 reply, 16 years ago)

oh, hell yeah
I was just being perverse. people who go on about their upbringing as a desperate attempt to excuse appalling behaviour are fucking irritating.

Edit: and I have gone about my upbringing too much in the past and trying to stop doing that. not quite normal or sane and getting justifiably hated by a girl it's not working out with against all expectation, but at least I'm my own person - I don't belong to my past.
(raymond "three griddle pans" luxury yacht lovin' the christmas action, Wed 3 Jun 2009, 19:32, Reply)

So no internet arguments then?
bored now.
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Wed 3 Jun 2009, 19:35, Reply)

I've had enough internet tension for one day
I should be in london trying to make a relationship work and get some loving but I'm a flake and didn't realise what was going on and sent her an email explaining why I didn't want to go that really pissed her off - too much info. My big mouth. Now drinking wine.. as a possible result of an upbringing drinking wine. Probably because I'm a flaky alcoholic chronically scared of rejection and in my comfort zone that's not actually so comfortable.

Argument time: I remember you work with pets or something. Why the fuck do you give a shit about a stupid decrepid cat?
(raymond "three griddle pans" luxury yacht lovin' the christmas action, Wed 3 Jun 2009, 19:43, Reply)

Why not? They don't get annoyed unless you annoy them first.
Not to late to get to London now and tell her that you love her and want some loving.
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Wed 3 Jun 2009, 19:47, Reply)

I'm too tipsy and don't fancy four hours of trains - maybe maybe tomorrow
besides we've met up a few times and it just hasn't worked out. I've made it clear in the last few months that I'm hooked on her while she's said there's no chemistry. So every time I try to be just friends and mention that I'm even slightly looking around elsewhere she gets irritable. Fine but if she's dating other guys as she has been then not fine.. I can't be bothered with this endless charade and the decision not to catch a train was damage limitation. I'm still hung up on her. Shouldn't have told her about the stunning girl I've been talking to who is 10 years my junior I suppose. Fuck it, I need to man up. I've been foolish but no need to feel guilty after all the info on her dates with me being the ever-so-understanding "friend". Women! Are you all like that? Or is it me?
(raymond "three griddle pans" luxury yacht lovin' the christmas action, Wed 3 Jun 2009, 19:55, Reply)

If that's the case, then I think you've made a good decision. If she feels there's no chemistry and you're hung up on her
then there's not much hope for the two of you. Also, if it took you mentioning another girl, prettier than her, to stir her attention then she is clearly suffering from the green eyed monster and will soon lose interest again once she's out of the picture.

We're not all out to fuck with your heads, I talk to some friends about guys I'm seeing, but never go into specifics out of respect.
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Wed 3 Jun 2009, 19:58, Reply)

cool, very nice advice
it's what I think really and was nice to hear it. The green-eyed monster.. for sure.. might be why I crave her too. I'd love to be just friends and forget all this romance crap that has fucked with both our heads.

I just can't shake the feeling I've said too much to her and have been offensive when I should have realised I was. She's got a big mouth but so have I. We are similar in a lot of ways.. sigh.

We speak on the phone every day for hours like a married couple.. guess we are both lonely.
(raymond "three griddle pans" luxury yacht lovin' the christmas action, Wed 3 Jun 2009, 20:12, Reply)

Well I hope if you see her tomorrow it all goes alright

( fuck shit up the best you never had, Wed 3 Jun 2009, 20:24, Reply)