True
but I view friendship like marriage, you get each other through all the ups and downs in life and there isn't any sex!

It depends, if she is going through a shit time turning your back on her isn't going to help, even if she is behaving like a silly fucker, however if she is still behaving like this when she is up then yes, run to the hills
(Halfy By light alone, Tue 26 Jan 2010, 11:45, 2 replies, latest was 16 years ago)

Yeah, but there are friends, and then there are FRIENDS
If my best mate told me he was going to off himself I would call him a massive bender and buy him a pint.

Actually, i'm not sure where i'm going with this so if it's ok with everyone i'll shut up now and get on with some work...
( Colonel Dracula Two manky hookers and a racist dwarf, Tue 26 Jan 2010, 11:50, Reply)

I kinda agree with you Halfy
but regardless of what the friend is going through they're not worth having if they're not prepared to see how their actions affect you. Constantly being at the beck and call of someone who's always threatening to top themself is not a friendship.
( djtrialprice, Tue 26 Jan 2010, 11:53, Reply)

It's inherently selfish
But therein lies the problem - (negative) self-obssession and an inability to see the bigger picture, to use a horrid American management-speak term.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Tue 26 Jan 2010, 11:58, Reply)

I suppose the only solution
is to not become friends with people who might one day have mental health problems. This is why I always have a questionnaire for people to fill in before I'm prepared to exchange phone numbers.
( djtrialprice, Tue 26 Jan 2010, 12:01, Reply)

Personally, if I suspect a friend may be menkle
I stave their head in with a pickaxe.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Tue 26 Jan 2010, 12:03, Reply)

That's always your excuse to the judge
You're just bloody lucky he's your uncle.
( djtrialprice, Tue 26 Jan 2010, 12:06, Reply)

Quite so.
The class-based two-tier justice system is one of the many great things about this wonderful country.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Tue 26 Jan 2010, 12:09, Reply)

Agree to a point
but it's worth it, when they do get better. I watched a friend go from perfectly lovely, to a suicide attempting mess who phoned me practically every week to tell me she'd swallowed pills/ cut her wrists etc. It got very tiring and very boring, but she did end up getting better and becoming herself again so it was worth it
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Tue 26 Jan 2010, 12:04, Reply)

No it isn't
but knowing you have a friend you can trust implicitly and can unload on when you are not feeling very rational is always very much appreciated in the grand scheme of things, even if short term it can be hard for the person taking the emotional battering
(Halfy By light alone, Tue 26 Jan 2010, 12:13, Reply)

I suppose it depends how close a friend they are
It's a bit glib of me to really sound off on the subject too much as no-one I care about has ever had such difficulties. I'd probably change my tune if it did.
( djtrialprice, Tue 26 Jan 2010, 12:17, Reply)

To be honest
I have had it with a complete stranger (hairpot) and that was fucking rough for a few weeks afterwards, so I know for definate that I could not and would not ever turn my back to a friend in need
(Halfy By light alone, Tue 26 Jan 2010, 12:19, Reply)