Women make bad choices too.
Over and over and over again. Some women choose to stay in abusive relationships and it is their fault 100% that they don't move out. But more often than not it's because of the kids that they stay and put up with it.
( girlinthehole, Wed 31 Mar 2010, 11:00, 2 replies, latest was 16 years ago)

I did get out of the relationship - and very quickly too.
And it's because of my kid that I still have to put up with it all. But even if that were not true if someone is abusive to you the blame for that is 100% upon them. There's no shared responsibility for abuse.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 31 Mar 2010, 11:04, Reply)

We all know the real reason you got out of the relationship
is because you were craving cock
( TGB checking Off Topic is still shit at, Wed 31 Mar 2010, 11:05, Reply)

Because of the kids? Surely it's more because they don't feel 'strong' enough to leave.
Like my mum said "I'd rather sit on orange boxes than let someone belt me and stay there with my kids."
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Wed 31 Mar 2010, 11:05, Reply)

That'll be their fault, apparently.
Their fault for being so bullied, devalued and cowed that they lack the self-belief and confidence to get out of the situation.

The stupid idiots.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 31 Mar 2010, 11:09, Reply)

It's just that I've known a couple of people in abusive relationships
One who had kids. She said it took her so long to go to her mothers (and another time to a shelter) not because she thought the kids were better off in their abusive home, but because of the way he'd made her. She couldn't leave him. She was 'unable'. She knew that ANYTHING would have been better for the kids than the environment. And she went back once or twice too.
I'm not saying she was right. I'd like to think my maternal insticnt would overtake any of my personal fears, but I've not been there.
Well, I've been in an abusive relationship but I was only responsible for me myself and I.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Wed 31 Mar 2010, 11:12, Reply)

You were in De La Soul?
Nice one.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 31 Mar 2010, 11:14, Reply)

fack orf ;)

( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Wed 31 Mar 2010, 11:14, Reply)

You should never let it get to that situation.
I guess it's not their fault they are weak but only they have the power to change how their lives are.
( girlinthehole, Wed 31 Mar 2010, 11:48, Reply)