A has family in Poland, I've met 2 of his brothers and I personally wouldn't fuck with them.
I don't think D is stupid, short-sighted maybe.
She is absolutely shit-scared.
( blaireau69 , the Cumbrian Travis Bickle., Sun 25 Apr 2010, 16:09, 2 replies, latest was 16 years ago)

But yeah, it's always a tricky one...
Trying to get a petrified person to understand that their fears are unfounded.
( blaireau69 , the Cumbrian Travis Bickle., Sun 25 Apr 2010, 16:13, Reply)

It's worse than you know.
He or someone like him will always have power over her, because that's the relationship dynamic that she always seeks. I've known dozens like her. Unless she gets into therapy and starts plumbing the depths for why she does this, it's going to be a lifelong cycle for her.

She has my sympathies, as digging for the root of the problem is often a really painful experience as well.
( The Resident Loon Not a demographic. Do not measure., Sun 25 Apr 2010, 16:25, Reply)

Nevertheless...
The immediate danger is to her and her daughter, and as a parent her overriding concern should be for the welfare of her child first, and herself second. Her family can, and probably should, make their own arrangements.
( Davros' Granddad a voice of calm reason in a world of spastics., Sun 25 Apr 2010, 16:19, Reply)