Jesus, that's tough.

( crackhouseceilidhband Fuck off back to Mumsnet, Wed 5 May 2010, 10:34, 1 reply, 16 years ago)

It certainly is,
although from another perspective it does reduce (if not remove altogether) the guilt factor from a decision she was edging towards anyway. Horrible all round, though.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 5 May 2010, 10:36, Reply)

Wow, that's so hard
For what you've been telling us, I honestly don't like her at all. Today I feel sorry for her.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Wed 5 May 2010, 10:39, Reply)

Were I as mean and judgemental as she is to me
I would say that knowing the potential risks involved she should have been extra careful to avoid pregnancy following the birth of our daughter so she is extra-stupid.

But whilst I have obviously had these thoughts I cannot sustain this stance. The poor bugger has really fucked up and I feel nothing but pity for her plight. Her mother has been a cold-hearted bitch about it too.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 5 May 2010, 10:50, Reply)

Quite a family, then.
By the sounds of things. Although one wonders if the example shown to your ex by her mother has anything to do with her attitude as an adult?
( Davros' Granddad a voice of calm reason in a world of spastics., Wed 5 May 2010, 10:53, Reply)

Beneath the cold, hard exterior of every hate-filled fascist...
Christ, there's no easy answer to that one, is there? It's not a decision you'd wish upon anybody. To be purely pragmatic about it, if the health risks are that great then I suppose the doctors' advice is probably the wisest: partly because of the ill-effects it might otherwise have on the twins she's carrying but also given the daughter she'd risk leaving behind. (However much of a basket case the woman might be, no child deserves to lose their mother at such a young age)

Either way, I find myself in the same position as Aberracion - even though she normally comes across as a deeply unlikeable individual, I feel sorry for her. I'd feel sorry for anyone in that position, no matter how much of a cunt they'd been in the past.
(LongJohnBaldry, Wed 5 May 2010, 11:13, Reply)