Because you don't want?
Or because you think he doesn't want?
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Mon 7 Jun 2010, 16:19, 1 reply, 16 years ago)

um
I don't think he did. I was probably hotter when he was drunk. But also I just wasn't bothered enough to make a big effort I guess. I think I'm not very good on dates because I'd rather have things be a laugh, than seriousness and long looks etc
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Mon 7 Jun 2010, 16:22, Reply)

that's a much better way of being on a date
if you've both laughed your arse off then it's a success in my book.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 7 Jun 2010, 16:24, Reply)

To be honest
a lot of people don't view a great sense of humour as an asset in a girlfriend
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Mon 7 Jun 2010, 16:28, Reply)

Then they're fools
It's one of the primary things I look for.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Mon 7 Jun 2010, 16:30, Reply)

I used to think that was true
but on closer observation over the years, it appears men really would rather be the ones making jokes and their girlfriends laughing
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Mon 7 Jun 2010, 16:37, Reply)

That is so true
Little times you hear: "She was fantastic, she made me laugh all the time"

But you hear: "She was fantastic, she even laugh at my jokes"
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Mon 7 Jun 2010, 16:44, Reply)

that is a sad state of affairs
Something I have noticed recently, and again has made me feel very lucky, is that a fairly significant proportion of my mate's and my bro's gfs etc. don't really seem to have any interests. nothing they are passionate about.

my main ones are music and surfing, but I'm just generally interested and enthusiastic about a lot of things, as is my other half.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 7 Jun 2010, 16:47, Reply)

Aberracion
is completely right. All those weird articles msn has on its front page on 'how to attract the right man' always always say 'laugh at his jokes and ask him about himself.' I'm cool with both of those things, but it's a bit sad that the advice isn't 'be funny and nice.'
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Mon 7 Jun 2010, 16:51, Reply)

it really is sad
hindsight is an interesting thing. I've kind of come to the conclusion that I never really had an luck with women when I was younger not because I was repulsive or weird (well, not entirely) but just because very few of the girls I knew or met were normal people who were interested in things, or liked a laugh.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 7 Jun 2010, 16:53, Reply)

Well I'm hoping
I'll meet some people like that.

The bad thing about this city, is that everyone is clever. That means that cleverness (and humour to an extent) are no longer criteria for being interested in someone. They have to be really hot as well.
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Mon 7 Jun 2010, 16:55, Reply)

not something I'd considered really
that said, all of the girls I've been with for longer than token periods of time have been good friends first, so looks aren't a driving factor at all.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 7 Jun 2010, 16:59, Reply)

Ah well
I've got a bit of time yet I guess.
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Mon 7 Jun 2010, 17:03, Reply)

definitely
the best things happen naturally in my (admittedly fairly limited) experience, and I don't think you have to worry about your looks
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 7 Jun 2010, 17:05, Reply)

Cheers
I should probably concentrate on my work at the moment as well
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Mon 7 Jun 2010, 17:08, Reply)

yeah
pull your damn socks up!
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 7 Jun 2010, 17:10, Reply)

me too
my gf and I frequently have each in stitches with the most ludicrous of things.

it's my experience that you can't have a proper relationship with someone unless they are a very good friend, and you can't be good friends with someone if you don't have compatible senses of humour
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 7 Jun 2010, 16:38, Reply)

THIS IN LARGE QUANTITIES

( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Mon 7 Jun 2010, 16:45, Reply)