I think I've deliberately gone against at least half.
12 is stupid. As are 4 and 2.
3: I don't stare, granted, but I talk far too much.
13 is good for me cos I get bored so fast, the less I see them, the longer it takes me to get bored of them.
(Applebite Uh! A cow!, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 13:59, 1 reply, 16 years ago)

your point about number 13 is odd to me
I've never been out with someone who wasn't a friend as well, and I generally have friends who I don't get bored with.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:03, Reply)

And also, if you know you're going to get bored with someone, they're not right for you
So get rid now and save the bother or them falling for you.
I always did that.
Unless they were the bored one and I was the falling one.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:05, Reply)

yeah, there's no point being with someone with whom you can't share your passions, your absurd hatreds and a fucking good laugh
as well as the awesome sexing naturally.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:07, Reply)

I've just not yet met the person who manages to tick all these boxes for me.

(Applebite Uh! A cow!, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:09, Reply)

that's fair enough
(I'm sure I say that too much)

my last couple of gfs have been mates first, and then we got together after some kind of mutual realisation of something. Been lucky I guess
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:11, Reply)

I have an incredibly fast turnover rate.
And a short attention span. I don't get bored of my friends, no matter how much I see them, but guys... as soon as they start wanting to see me more than three times a week, I get really panicky and uncomfortable, and I need to get out.
(Applebite Uh! A cow!, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:08, Reply)

that's exactly me
But when you feel like that just dump. It means he's not really what you want.
It's kinder all round.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:13, Reply)

That's what I do.
Sometimes I get that rise of panic a few weeks in, sometimes after the first date. I've never not had it though.
(Applebite Uh! A cow!, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:19, Reply)

without wanting to (badly) psychoanalyse
why the panic?
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:21, Reply)

I have a terrible, terrible fear of commitment.
Even the tiniest little bit, like committing to go on a date with someone more than a week in advance makes me panic. It's not as bad as it used to be, I used to bail on someone I liked as soon as they suggested a date, no matter how much I liked them.
I think I take the phrase "there's plenty more fish in the sea" too literally. I want to catch as many of them as I can. I always think: "What if I become his girlfriend today, then meet someone better tomorrow?"

Yes! My puppy is home :D
(Applebite Uh! A cow!, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:28, Reply)

that's pretty weird
and by 'that's' I mean 'women are'
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:35, Reply)

This isn't the standard thinking of mot of my friends though.
The all want, and some even need relationships, as in can't function single.

And that was really shit psychoanalysing by the way.
(Applebite Uh! A cow!, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:38, Reply)

I wasn't actually attempting to analyse
just curious

both ends of the spectrum are quite odd, particularly from a bloke's point of view. very confusing as well, having been on the receiving end of both.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:40, Reply)

If anyone would like to psychoanalyse, please go ahead.
It's nothing to do with being afraid to open up to people, because I'm about as open as you get.

I confuse myself to be honest. And I really don't understand why people don't enjoy being free more.
(Applebite Uh! A cow!, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:45, Reply)

I can't begin to offer an explanation
and I haven't been single for about 8 and a half years, and at that time being free involved having basically no success with women.

I would have enjoyed a period of singledom years ago when I upgraded gfs, just to see what it was like and how I got on, but I would've missed out on being with my mrs.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:51, Reply)

You just think "Argh fuck off!!"
and you bawk when the phone lights up.
it means you've decided you don't like him enough to keep dating him but you don't know how to tell him.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:30, Reply)

or OH MY GOD, STOP FUCKING TALKING TO ME.
Give me five minutes to myself, please!
(Applebite Uh! A cow!, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 14:31, Reply)