You might make yourself even poorer by trying to get what's owed to your kids too
and cause yourself a whole lot of stress. Sod him, let him fail his children, give up what you left with him as lost.
Start all over, free from him and your marriage to him.
I know it's infuriating, but I was never going to get a penny out of my ex, so I eventually came to terms with the fact that I'd been taken for a ride. I was also confident that everybody would see her for what she is, and they did. So will your ex's children.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 14:35, 2 replies, latest was 16 years ago)

this ^^
I finally picked up the last things from my ex on monday and I now consider him to be an irrelevance
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 14:39, Reply)

That's how I feel most of the time
but as I've just received letters from his extremely expensive solicitors today I'm utterly airborne.
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 14:42, Reply)

he'll get his...

( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 14:55, Reply)

I'm sure he will
I try to be honest but fair when I talk about him to the kids - he does try to be a good father but he's useless. They're not daft and they hate their grandparents now because they can see how we lived.

Still, I'd love to punch him and his parents.
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 15:00, Reply)

He's not trying to be a good father if he's not providing for them

( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 15:01, Reply)

I'm trying to be fair and measured here
He is useless.
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 15:02, Reply)

if he begrudges paying anything towards the kids
then that's not really the attitude of a good father.
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 15:01, Reply)

RAR!

( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 15:02, Reply)

*claws air*
I stand by it though.
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 15:04, Reply)

Money before kids, always!
It just makes them grow up tough if they go without.
And anyway money is what people with degrees make and their mother has far too many of them.

*seethes*
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 15:04, Reply)

I can't stand people like that
poor justification so they don't ever have to experience actually going without a little in order to help those who should mean so much to them.

He will get his just desserts of that I am sure. Possibly with the aid of a cricket bat and a balaclava
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 15:09, Reply)

I have had rock climbing mates offer to 'sort him out' for about £500
And at least one b3tan who has 'dealings' with dodgy types made the same offer a couple of years back.

It's tempting but doesn't pay for the school shoes.
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 15:12, Reply)

no but he'll realise how much shoes cost
when he pisses on his in terror
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 15:14, Reply)

Hahahaah!
So very tempting.
But in all honesty I'm not the vengeful type - I'm the impotent rage on the internet type that shows a smiley face to the world while wishing him dead - by natural causes.
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 15:17, Reply)

A good father would sell some land and provide for his children.

( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 15:03, Reply)

He'd say that that's a short term answer
by keeping the land there'll be something for his kids when they grow up.

Despite the fact that they probably won't have anything to do with him by then and they'll sell it all to BLACK PEOPLE! That'll make his entire family spontaneously combust - even those in their graves.
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 15:06, Reply)

They'll make sure that there's 'nothing' for the kids to inherit anyway

( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 15:09, Reply)

This is not necesarily true, sadly.

( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 15:01, Reply)