What I signed up for and was expecting
Was the person who I'd fallen in love with to be fundamentally the same when we were married. Yes, both of us would change over time, get a bit older and a bit wiser and all that sort of thing, but core values were, I thought, fixed.

Turns out, people can change. And change quite a lot.

We were probably too young when we got married. Maybe that was it.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sun 26 Sep 2010, 23:37, 1 reply, 16 years ago)

you never see what someone is really like
until you split up. some of the things i see when couples have split up and are dividing property is enough to make you swear off the opposite sex forever.

so long as it hasn't made you too scarred though. the next one will be different.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Sun 26 Sep 2010, 23:40, Reply)

We'll see.
But seeing just how easily the last marriage fell apart - despite a number of proper goes at sorting things out and getting everything on an even keel - makes me wonder if life isn't easier with the 'being able to just walk away option' still in place.

It would have saved a few years of misery as we could have drawn a line under everything, rather than hoping the fact we'd got married made things worth persevering with.

I wouldn't have had those last 2 years with a 'girl friend' I'd have ended the relationship long before that.

Cynical? Just a bit.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sun 26 Sep 2010, 23:46, Reply)

the fact of "marriage"
is why a lot of people don't bother with it, i think you're absolutely right.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Sun 26 Sep 2010, 23:50, Reply)

Get married.
It might suit you.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sun 26 Sep 2010, 23:55, Reply)

i doubt
anyone could put up with me!
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 27 Sep 2010, 0:05, Reply)

Is that because every time some disagrees with you and 'objects'
You put on a grey wig and shout 'overrulled!'

(Yes, I know you're not a Judge).

Why would you say that though? What makes you think you're unbearable?
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Mon 27 Sep 2010, 0:07, Reply)