Forget about your ex
You broke up for a reason. Move on to greener pastures.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:03, 1 reply, 15 years ago)

That's all fine and well
however my greener pastures have a dirty great tumbleweed in them.
(berk, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:08, Reply)

Move on from the ex.
People don't change that much. The dynamic of the renewed relationship will be one of your assessing the fellow all the time. It won't work, he'll get his hopes up fruitlessly (I wouldn't blame him), then it will end again only even more painfully.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:16, Reply)

^This
Also berk, you just need to get out more. I know that there aren't many opportunities for that right now, but I'd be happy to wingman you at a pub or decent club in Birmingham some time, as I'd also like to get out somewhere new (not with an eye to pulling, just to meeting hot alt girls).
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:19, Reply)

Hehe, cheers.
When I've got some cash I may take you up on that - there's a couple of decent alternative clubs/nights here. It's just a struggle to go out not knowing anyone, but if I don't go out then it's a struggle to meet anyone. Bit of a shitter really.
(berk, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:26, Reply)

I know exactly what you mean
Whereas here i have friends I can go out with (although almost all have partnered up), but nowhere decent to go.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:28, Reply)

I have found that most of my friends
who are also partnered up have almost no interest in going out anymore. Tedious farts - I'm too young to be getting old and boring!
(berk, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:31, Reply)

I occasionally feel too old to go out to rock clubs
But then I really enjoyed going to the Ballroom with folk!
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:35, Reply)

Yes, I haven't the stamina to do it every week like I used to!
But occasionally I do really feel like going out for a drink and a dance and a damn good giggle.
(berk, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:37, Reply)

Well, yes, this is generally my feeling
I just feel I guess like I ought to give it another go instead of binning a nearly two year relationship for stuff he reckons he can change. So I'm thinking about it, seriously thinking about it, but I'm inclined to think that you are right and that I made the right choice. Probably.
(berk, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:20, Reply)

Initial gut reactions are (in my experience) invariably right.
Please listen to me: you are fucking lovely. Don't be so impatient.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:20, Reply)

Aww, thanks
I'm not particularly impatient to be in a relationship again, to be honest - it's just not really knowing anyone and thus feeling bored and lonely that particularly frustrates me.
(berk, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:39, Reply)

Yes move on.
But don't put "my greener pastures have a dirty great tumbleweed in them." in your dating profile.
(Cave Duck, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:18, Reply)

Sounds kind of rude, doesn't it?

(berk, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:20, Reply)

That, and the fact that it might attract blokes who know more about creeping fescue than is good for them.

(Cave Duck, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:30, Reply)

Move on
Settling for better-than-nothing sucks and you'll never get better with that attitude
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:20, Reply)