The sad thing is that I've had this sort of stuff thrown at me before by my family whenever I've done something they don't approve of and I've caved. This time, though, I am absolutely resolute in my decision and am willing myself to be stronger but it can be tough when your mother starts to cry and wail about how you're trampling on her dreams and so forth. I am very thankful that my girlf is incredibly supportive and understanding, otherwise I'd end up a wreck!

nd1001, that sucks that your folks have such a ridiculous view of your other half. My folks have a particular image (not a very nice one) in their heads about white people and it drives me nuts when they use that as the basis for their argument as my girlf is FAR from those things that they believe and they are being very stupid for writing her off before they've even met her. Trying to stay calm is frustrating in itself!!!
(RVD420 has his world coming down on, Sat 3 Apr 2010, 20:11, 2 replies)

Ugh have to admit I hate the emotional blackmail parents try to put on you - it's unfair of parents to blame you for 'shattering their dreams' - they shouldn't be having children so they can dictate their lives to them...but what do I know?
I've already upset my mother by not doing the 'get married and have kids' thing, but it's just something she has to deal with.
Are her family accepting of you?
(Beklet is inexplicably angry, Sun 4 Apr 2010, 10:43, closed)

Luckily for me, her family are very accepting and are very eager to meet the man who has put an incredibly huge smile on their daughter's face. They've seen the heartache she's been through in her life due to other blokes and now that their little girl has finally found someone who makes her incredibly happy, they're over the moon for her. Sadly, the same cannot be said about my family at all.

After all this that we're going through, I know for a fact that I will never put my kids through this sort of thing. For me, as long as they become decent people and find happiness, I will support them all the way, no matter what other people may have to say.
(RVD420 has his world coming down on, Sun 4 Apr 2010, 10:52, closed)

"This time, though, I am absolutely resolute in my decision and am willing myself to be stronger but it can be tough when your mother starts to cry and wail about how you're trampling on her dreams and so forth"

Ah, the classic Asian-mother-guilt-trip. If you truly loved your mother you'd want her to be happy so would stop dating the white girl and find yourself a nice Indian. But because you're choosing your own happiness, that makes you a bad son etc.
(ToysForBigBoys would spread her legs for Nick Clegg., Tue 6 Apr 2010, 11:49, closed)