Fuck the lot of you
I have absolutely no problem paying for my kids. what I object to is the total imbalance imposed upon me by the CSA. I have no option but to pay whatever they decide I should pay. and there is no right of appeal. they take no account of the £80,000 the bitch stole from me, and absolutely no account of the fact she stops me seeing my children when ever she wants. we split up 11 years ago, and still she threatens me with "if you don't do what I tell you you wont see the kids."

The real problem posed by the CSA is the imbalance it created. in the past if guy didn't pay he didn't see his kids. if she stopped him seeing the kids he could refuse to pay. and both parties had the same recourse. Court. now guy has to pay no matter what. don't pay and they can go to your company and just take your money, and charge you for the privaledge. if she stops you seeing the kids the only thing you can do is go to court. I spent over £12,000 trying to force her to be reasonable. Money down the drain. the courts have no teeth, if she doesn't comply with the court order all I can do is go back to court and ask the court to tell her to. If she doesn't I can go back to court... Etc etc etc. I know people who have done this for years. Ultimately I ran out of money. I'm in debt up to my eyeballs, allbecause of her. And you are paying her legal fees and her housing. why shouldn't she go back to court every time? You can afford it
(Vinegar strokes Should know better on, Thu 21 Oct 2010, 18:17, 2 replies)

"I spent over £12,000 trying to force her to be reasonable"
There's part of the problem, bud. What makes you think that dragging her through the courts will "make her be reasonable"? Shame that 2 people can't act like adults, but that's life - ask Esther Rantzen.
( Michael Ellis contributes nothing, Thu 21 Oct 2010, 18:33, closed)

My partner is being fucked over by the CSA too
The CSA are a bunch of low lifes, they claim to be operating in the interest of the child, but when they will allow one very bitter and nasty parent to have full control over the life of the other parent, they show how morally corrupt they really are.

We are denied access, have no money to take it to court and are told that this is simply because the child no longer wishes to have anything to do with us. I am watching my partners heart being broken and there is nothing I can do. All the CSA say is that her payments must go up.

Where is that justice for the child? The system is flawed and revolting.
( Rev. Jayneflakes Buy my book, I need the cash for drugs and hookers, Thu 21 Oct 2010, 19:06, closed)

What about the cases where the CSA works absolutely perfectly for both parties involved?
I'm amazed you think the department is "morally corrupt". A department that is designed to ensure the children of broken homes in this country are well-fed and housed, and in the most part succeeds. Fuck me, it almost sounds like you'd rather the CSA didn't exist and all single parents generally struggled like fuck and lived entirely off the state, or fought over money AS WELL AS access to the kids involved.

I have paid thousands out to my ex over the years. Now I'm a single father with absolutely no contribution from the mother (because I don't ask for one), I earn less than minimum wage but I work my hours and and we get by, mostly because I'm an adult and I can handle my shit. People who whinge about this get right on my tits because it's always the other person's fault, it's always the other party who's a bitch or the system that's broken. Take some responsibility, man the fuck up and get on with it. If it's destroying your life, go to Citizen's Advice, your solicitor, mediation, litigation or counselling, whatever it takes to come to terms with where your life is now. Don't sit in front of the screen bitching about it here.
( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Thu 21 Oct 2010, 20:08, closed)