Hormones as excuses
If a woman refuses to keep her hormonal moods under control, and makes life miserable for everyone else, that's just PMS. It's like some sort of female birthright. It's even been used as a mitigating excuse for violence and murder.
If a male refuses to control his testosterone-based moods, he's (rightly) castigated as a stupid thug.
How can women demand to be treated as responsible adults, then screech with indignation when someone suggests they do something about their PMS?
You either act like a grown-up, or a rather nasty and dangerous child. Gender's no excuse.
(Fuck I've wanted to say that for AGES)
(mudskipper, Mon 4 Jan 2010, 1:34, 9 replies)

^THIS
my sister once stabbed her bloke in the arm with a fork during a PMS-induced rage, then wanted to call the police when he slapped her! she really couldn't see why i wasn't on her side.
( Smash Monkey lowering the tone of the whole internet, Mon 4 Jan 2010, 2:04, closed)

Indeed
I've raised this point in conversation many times. I've never had one woman agree with it or even be able see the double standard.
Testosterone fuelled idiots who let their anger/lust get the better of them should always be held fully responsible for their actions, the same should apply to women and using PMS as a defence is not acceptable.
There are allowances made in law for extreme provocation or in retaliation to abuse. These measures are enough and should apply to both sexes equally.
(Megamoss, Mon 4 Jan 2010, 2:52, closed)

Fuck Yer! But I'm pretty sure you'll get a fair bit of hate for this insightful piece of truth (Blimey! You're just like Jeebers!)
(catflap I went out with Nicholas Parsons, Mon 4 Jan 2010, 3:34, closed)

what do people here propose a woman should do about her PMS?
If you have it, its pretty shitty on the inside too. Whats the solution? More pills? Hysterectomy? Counselling? Hand over all power to a doctor who doesn't necessarily actually know jack about this stuff?
This is genuine question, I'm not asking for more of the sexist crap I've been reading here so far (helloo? yes I know this is b3ta)

And by the same token, what about the people who attribute any action of a woman that they don't agree with as PMS? Its real and exists ( as does autism, yup, in its own right) and its not just a convenient excuse for any female actually expressing a difference in opinion.

And no I'm not fucking premenstrual, alright?!
(maggotriddendirtbox fast, feral and sharp as a tack since, Mon 4 Jan 2010, 4:31, closed)

She can do nothing, just learn to live with it.
Same as the male with too much testosterone, it shouldn't be an excuse for any behavior, if it affects a women's mind so much then maybe all this is true and they should stay in the kitchen and leave the sane people to run things, there there petal! calm down!
( evilamnesiac says fuck you Prince, Mon 4 Jan 2010, 8:35, closed)

I dunno, have a little self-awareness?
Think: "I go batshit mental every 28 days, perhaps this time I'll back off and not make my boyfriend's life a living hell?"

Mark the days on a calendar with a big red cross and every time you start to spazz out remember that your hormones are imbalanced and it might be a better idea not to say the most spiteful things you can think of?

Chill the fuck out and let your nearest and dearest get on with their lives without reducing their self-confidence to a dribbling mess?

/sorry for the rant, but as noted in my post further down (or up?) I had to put up with this for four years and still don't understand how it can come as such a big surprise every fucking month
( emvee cruor deo cruoris, Mon 4 Jan 2010, 19:26, closed)

How about control yourself?
Just like a bloke with too much man-power coursing out of his nuts who feels like clocking or fucking everything within reach is expected to control himself. Nobody said it was going to be easy ...
(mudskipper, Tue 5 Jan 2010, 2:06, closed)

Thanks
Because of "too much man-power coursing out of his nuts who feels like clocking or fucking everything within reach" I have to explain to my boss why im laughing as she tells me her car has been stolen.................
(Obi wanker nobi Its not a bug, its an unexpected feature, Wed 6 Jan 2010, 16:43, closed)

yup easy to say
ok, slight difference, but to the extent that diabetics might sometimes have a hypo episode while most of the time they control their blood sugar. Its all hormones, and they're insiduous. At least when the blob starts, you get the physical stuff, and you KNOW whats happening. Emotional stuff is a sneakier thing.

If I'm honest, and serious, up until the last year, I never knew from one month to the next when I was likely to morph into superbitch. . . tracking your cycle isn't something one would normally bother with unless trying to get up the duff. Well, for me and most people I knew anyway. Too many other things going on than clock/calender watching
And its not until afterwards I'd be like, "fuck me, PMT again" although its obvious, I know.
Charting cycles has focused me into much more awareness of whats happening in my body, and its took til 32 (and a failed pregnancy). This isn't stuff you ordinarily get taught in school, or by parents.

I was serious with the other options - short of hiding yourself away for a week out of every month, which isn't really practical in a working scenario, what else can you do?
And its not just the anger/irritability/'could go off at any time' factor, its also pretty shit bursting into tears when its the LAST thing you want to be doing.
Its hard to explain, and I really don;t know why I'm bothering here because I think I'm just coming across as some whingeing hormonal female bleating on about how terrible it all is, thats really not my aim.
For some reason, and especially given this qotw title, I get a bit antsy about blokes writing off women for something that happens, and is shit all round.
Some people don't always want to change their thinking, and thats fine I guess, but stuff like 'deal with it', 'live with it', 'control yourself' . . . I guess that applies all around too then.
(maggotriddendirtbox fast, feral and sharp as a tack since, Thu 7 Jan 2010, 0:41, closed)