I want a dog
My soon to be ex-partner wanted a dog. "I don't really" says I, "I want a dog" says she, "But you work shifts, it'll be difficult",..."I want a dog". I continue a reasoned debate about the 'cons of having a dog that I don't want, but it's very difficult to emapthise with someone who basically behaves like a spoilt child and counters any reasonable argument with 'But I want a dog'.

As no middle ground can be reached she finally is resigned to the fact that I don't want a dog. Then I'm told that I will never be forgiven and that I need to move into the spare room. I do so beliving that she will calm down soon and see the sense in two people being able to have different points of view and still live comfortably together.

Next day at work, phone call. "Just wanted you to know, we've got a dog."

I'm currently looking at flats.
(onemunki Down there for dancing, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 12:34, 12 replies)

Hope you find one soon
Does she know you're moving out?

My reply to the phone call would've been, "what do you mean WE have a dog"?

Do you plan to call the animal cruelty people after you move out and the dog suffers from neglect?
(ChiTown Guy Dating when 35+: sane, single, attractive - pick 2, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 12:42, closed)

That'll teach her
Let us know how she takes the news.
(ed-z, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 12:57, closed)

You
Stole my story - that was the last straw in a long line of shit that resulted in me leaving her after fifteen years of marriage.
(V3lvetPresley, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 13:08, closed)

Mrs Duck did the same to me
Nagged me for a dog I said no. One day phoned me up when I was at a mates Barbeque
"What would you say to a nice border collie. I've found one in the paper he's 6 months old", I thought I'd put her off gently "I supose we can go and see him". "No problem you'll see him when you get home"

Sure enough there was Boris whe I got home. He changed my mind about not wanting a dog because he is lovely. I love that dog (he's in my profile)
(sittingduck Attention seeking, bullshitting fuck-knuckle, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 13:32, closed)

I'd have dumped her too.
I absolutely hate dogs. Most of them are utter dick heads.
Some can be cool. But they are usually far and few between.

Now as for Cats... :)
(Miggyman, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 13:51, closed)

My brother
refuses to move in with his supposed fiancee, largely due to her habit of acquiring pets seemingly at random. Three times now she's gained a dog out of nowhere, before deciding within a week that she can't look after it properly and sending it off to the rescue centre.
(The Duke of Boredom ruling over your boredom since, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 15:11, closed)

I'd have dumped her too
Terrible behaviour. Do let us know what happens, we all love gossip. YAK YAK YAK
(Stiltzkin, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 16:12, closed)

Cheers
Genuinely touched by the empathy guys.

I don't have many close friends round here to chat the situation over with And the vindication that "it's not just me!" has been well received. Currently we're not really talking and obviously the dog is still a problem. Few points that compound the situation:

1. Am divorced after a ten year marriage with a controlling woman who always got what she wanted without consulting me to the extent that I came home from work one day to find polish builders digging up out front garden after me expressly saying that we couldn't afford a new driveway!
2. Found out via Facebook that prior to discussing the dog, it had already been chosen and pictures posted to all friends and family.
3. She is a nurse and regularly works till after midnight in A&E
4. My 9 year old daughter was hospitalised after a dog bite and is quite understandably petrified of the bloody things.

To conclude, it's not the physical fact that we have a dog, I don't have a problem with them, it's 8 weeks old and is actually quite cute. It's really the lack of respect and the underhand organisation of the whole deal.

Will keep you posted.

Cheers.
(onemunki Down there for dancing, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 18:56, closed)

Pick better women, Dear.
And I wish you could have replied, "And YOU need a new flat!"

Ah well, so move out, and take the dog with you (cue evil woman laughter...).
( kila is reading clocks upside-down as usual, Sat 6 Aug 2011, 13:10, closed)

Yep
It's a sorry state of affairs which gets worse when there are kids involved. I feel your pain.

Nice QOTW eh. Gets you all stirred up and everything. RAAAAARRRR!
(ed-z, Mon 8 Aug 2011, 15:27, closed)

Hmmm
If it were me, I think these extra points would mean it's the end of the line. She has no respect for you. I understand you want to make it work, being divorced.

To quote a good friend of mine, Lord Alberthorne of Chessington: "DUMP DAT BITCH"
(Stiltzkin, Tue 9 Aug 2011, 12:13, closed)

She probably wanted children, really.
So, either you are an ignorant fool, or you dodged as massive bullet.
( monster munch person, man, woman... camera... TV?, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:11, closed)