always two sides to a coin.
By going to the lengths of proposing is really confirming to her that she is what you want. So good on you.

One idea, in order to avoid what the side of the coin that others have suggested.. I know its old fashioned, but ask her parents for permission. That will go a long way, and will be a lot more meaningful than just approaching her.

Good luck, let us know what happened!
(Miggyman, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 13:37, 3 replies)

I second asking her parents for permission
if nothing else it won me huge amounts of brownie points, and when her sisters bloke did the same thing a month or two later it clearly looked like he'd done it because I had. I win!
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 14:03, closed)

Your asked her parents for permission?
Why, did they own her or something?

This isn't the 17th Century you know.
(TheManWithThePlan cussed your mum on, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 14:18, closed)

it's a gesture
clearly they don't own her, and as I've been living with her for nearly 6 years it is nothing more than a gesture.

Sometimes it's nice to do pointless things because it makes people feel good.

You colossal cuntbeak.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 14:21, closed)

I'm sure it made your wife feel good to be viewed a piece of property

(TheManWithThePlan cussed your mum on, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 14:32, closed)

pwnd!

(Bret Mong Keys Eggs has wet his weapon, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 14:38, closed)

yeah, because that was exactly what she thought
I highly doubt many women would think that was why their partner had done it.

Can we assume that your plan is to be a miserable bastard and try and find a negative meaning in something which was entirely good natured in an attempt to cause arguments on the internet?
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 14:40, closed)

that's so not true
I want my bloke to ask for my dad's blessing. It doesn't make me feel like property, it will make me happy to know that my dad is happy with the man I want to marry.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 14:48, closed)

hey kitty, you ok?

(Kip, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 14:52, closed)

.... have you got something to say to her dad or something?

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 15:08, closed)

who kitty's?

(Kip, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 15:13, closed)

....ermm..... yeah', who else?

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 15:18, closed)

just made me laugh that's all
But no not sure it would be that appropriate and fairly sure wiggy wouldn't be too happy either.
(Kip, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 15:24, closed)

haha unlikely
for many reasons!
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 17:11, closed)

s'all good
let me know when she says yes :D
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 17:12, closed)

You could say the same thing about the tradition of marriage itself.

( Sir Sand GOBLIN ^popular page dis, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 15:25, closed)

already got that one planned
So even if she does say no, she'll go back to them and they'll tell her that I visited.
(Kip, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 14:05, closed)

Speaking as a woman, I'd hate that.
I'm my own person; I belong only to me. I am the only one from whom permission may be granted.
( Bob Todd whee, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 15:04, closed)

it's not like you are actually asking the dad and that the woman has no choice
it's more asking permission to ask her.

Final decision rests with the woman, but you get the ok from her parents first.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 15:22, closed)

What if they didn't give you permission to ask her though?

(TheManWithThePlan cussed your mum on, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 15:49, closed)

if I thought they would have said no then I wouldn't have asked them
as I said earlier, it was a gesture, rather than actually asking permission.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 16:09, closed)

yeah it's more of a blessing rather than permission

( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 17:12, closed)

meh
personally it'd annoy me. Keeping archaic behaviour, just for the sake of it is a bit pointless. And this is coming from a history student
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 17:49, closed)

you're just contrary though.
the reaction of her parents made it totally worthwhile.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 18:16, closed)

I'm not contrary!*
But how come it's 'ask the father' if you're doing it as a gesture of good faith, then at least ask both father and mother.

*May be a bit contrary
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Mon 9 Aug 2010, 21:11, closed)

No-one needs permission to ask me a question; that's just a waste of time.
And what gives someone who is not me the authority to say that someone can ask me something? I'm the only one who can say that.
( Bob Todd whee, Tue 10 Aug 2010, 0:10, closed)

once again
it's a gesture, nothing more. it made people feel good and happy. there is no hidden meaning. None of us think we own anyone.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 10 Aug 2010, 9:27, closed)

I own you
get back in the kitchen wench
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Tue 10 Aug 2010, 9:38, closed)

yes mistress

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 10 Aug 2010, 9:47, closed)

I suppose if it works for you and yours, good for you.
But that would make me very angry.
( Bob Todd whee, Tue 10 Aug 2010, 11:02, closed)

then you get angry over things that aren't worth getting angry over

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 10 Aug 2010, 12:10, closed)