I answered this one a while back.
My most memorable cougar experience can be found here.

It rather put me off them for a long while, to say the least. In fact, I still am.

So I decided to go the opposite direction. As a waiter I made reasonable money, so I got a flat in a better area. By this time I was about 25, so I reasoned that basically anything of legal age was fair game.

I found out several things:

-a girl in her late teens may have a firm body with smooth skin and a tight mimsy, but she doesn't yet really know how to use it, so it's much like having an inflatable doll that makes odd sounds. Most likely she'll just lie there like a frightened possum. Be prepared to do all of the work.

-if you decide that you're going to teach said young girl how to use what she has properly, it's going to take a lot of time, effort and patience to get her past the point of standard missionary position with the lights off. Be prepared for a lot of cajoling and persuasion.

-during this time you have to constantly reassure her that she's what you want, that what you've asked her to do isn't weird or sick (yes, oral sex is normal and can be enjoyable), and that you're not planning on just dumping her for the next pert bottom that passes you by. Be prepared for a lot of tears.

-once you have her to the point where she's comfortable having sex with you and knows that you're not intending to dump her, she will start trying to use sex to manipulate you. Be prepared for a lot of pouting.

-when you finally tire of all the head games and dump her, she'll turn into the Wronged Woman and wail to anyone within earshot about how you only wanted to get into her knickers and you're a callous bastard whose only goal is to get his cock wet. Be prepared for a lot of shouting and accusations, and to have your sex life made very public.

-and last but not least- it's not worth the effort.

These days I prefer to stick with women around my own age, and to be clear to the point of being blunt about what I want out of our time together and what will send me scrambling for the hills. Some women find my directness to be off-putting, while others find it to be a relief not to have to worry about hidden agendas and expectations.

Cougars? Nymphettes? You can have the whole sorry lot of them. Sex is better now than at any other time in my life.
(Shimrod, Mon 8 Dec 2008, 17:21, 9 replies)

Thinking of what my friends and I were like at that age then I would agree.
There are exceptions obviously but I think in this case a sweeping generalization is well founded.


Is there anybody on this qotw who can say, well I only went out with girls or boys my own age and we learnt all about sex the hard way, (no pun intended), through trial and error.
( girlinthehole, Mon 8 Dec 2008, 17:52, closed)

I most certainly can
I only narrowly avoided rambling on about what I do and don't like in bed here.
( Captain V, Mon 8 Dec 2008, 19:19, closed)

yup.
Don't get me started on it though, I'm one of those weirdos who married their first partner.
( baw__bag contains traces of nuts on, Tue 9 Dec 2008, 15:05, closed)

This is the truth
And good god I can sympathize. There's also the rather rare but unfortunate thing to watch out for, and that is:

If you're her first proper relationship, this will be where latent bunny-boilerishness will appear.

I've only been with one partner who was younger than I was, and out of the blue one morning she pinned my hand to the kitchen table with a steak knife. A story for another QotW, perhaps.
(DarkLite swallowed my entire undercarriage, Mon 8 Dec 2008, 18:31, closed)

And I can
attest to the truth of that! I was her first everything- her first real kiss, her first boyfriend, her first sex- and ultimately we married.

I suppose it's no great wonder that Nurse Ratched still hates me, as I took her virginity and then dumped her after a mere 20 years...
( The Resident Loon Not a demographic. Do not measure., Mon 8 Dec 2008, 18:35, closed)

apart from the kiss and boyfriend bit
that's my story too, right down to the words "nurse" and "hates"
( baw__bag contains traces of nuts on, Tue 9 Dec 2008, 15:07, closed)

it's Hard Graft
Sometimes with younger men as well. Thats why I want someone my own age, who I don't have to keep explaining things to.. Hence you have a click.. also for eloquence..
(Beer Elf Thought this was like a campfire, anyhow, on, Mon 8 Dec 2008, 19:32, closed)

Absolutely, utterly,
true! Have a click!
(rampants, Tue 9 Dec 2008, 14:14, closed)

Excuse me
I am an 18 year old girl, and I think that is bollocks.
(sparkly_penguin, Tue 9 Dec 2008, 14:38, closed)