Not funny, just venting
Two years ago, met a girl, got on great, fell in love.

Upped sticks from my hometown and moved away to be with her.

Got engaged.

And then things turned.

She called the wedding off and we broke up. But I stayed living there till I could find a place. The day I was due to move out she broke down, said she still loved me, that she was sorry and we got back together. WHAT WAS I THINKING!?

Things were ok. For a while. But then it went break up, get back together, break up, yadda yadda yadda...

We finally broke up for good about 2 months ago. It's been HORRIBLE. Since then she's been the most hateful, spiteful, vindictive person you could imagine. I can't believe this is the same girl I was with. All utterly unjustifiable. When we were together, her mum paid the deposit for the wedding. Obviously when it got cancelled that deposit was lost, the venue saying it was much too close to the date to return. I took out a credit card to pay her mum the money back. The ex was going to chip away at her half as and when she could afford it.

But then out of the blue, shortly before we finally split, we get wind that there's a new manager at the venue. Nothing ventured, nothing gained... we try asking her for our deposit. She says she'll look into the records and see what she can do. Happy days.

Even happier days, the missus receives a phonecall a few days later saying we're going to get a cheque for the full amount.

This cheque arrived AFTER we split and with the ex now a LONG way away and, crucially, in her name. Initially I was promised it would get paid into my bank account.

The missus had been chipping away slowly but the bulk of this money is mine. She's now miles and miles away and, after two months of me politely inquiring "have you had chance to cash that cheque yet?", she's now claiming I've no right to the money, saying it was her who paid her mum back and using words like "bully" and "stalker" to describe me when I ring to reason with her that what's she's done amounts to theft.

What was I thinking when I stayed with her? When I took out the credit card? When I believed she'd pay me back? Fuck's sake.

If I've learnt one thing it's this: if there are cracks in the relationship no amount of papering over them will fix things. Get out early, no matter how hard that seems.

Otherwise you too could be left with a huge credit card bill and a screaming thief at the other end of the phone.

Vent over. Apologies for that.
(R. Jimlad twitter.com/sirmarkymark, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 18:51, 7 replies)

Nice to have you back.

(Tiktock Beating off flamers with a shitty stick, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 21:04, closed)

:o)
Ta muchly.
(R. Jimlad twitter.com/sirmarkymark, Fri 24 Sep 2010, 12:50, closed)

Something similar happened to me a few years back.
Except it didn't get as far as organising a wedding, and the cause was clearer: she'd got tired of me and had progressed onto her much older but far more desirable boss. Naturally I kicked off about this, and while I was out at work she went sobbing to the police accusing me of assault. Because of that single accusation, I lost my job, a roof over my head, any immediate chance of a future career and a lot of my sanity too.
(WANKERTRON you say "prick", I say "wanker", Thu 23 Sep 2010, 22:19, closed)

Wow.
Fuck's sake, that's harsh. My situation's not that bad. Yet.
(R. Jimlad twitter.com/sirmarkymark, Fri 24 Sep 2010, 12:51, closed)

Oooh, there's going to be a few of these this week.
I papered over the cracks 4 years ago. I didn't get out early. I (wrongly, as it turned out) got her up the duff to see if it would make things better.

It took 8 months of Family Court before I saw my little boy this Spring, and I've just about got the County Court deposit together to go with my bankruptcy paperwork next week.

I wish I was making this up.

Also, 'ning RJ.
(WillI'mNot logs in twice a year, every year, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 22:45, closed)

Ning!
The world can be a shit place sometimes but I remain convinced that the majority of people in it are generally cool and wonderful. I have to. Otherwise I'd go on a murderous rampage.

Hope things pick up for you soon.
(R. Jimlad twitter.com/sirmarkymark, Fri 24 Sep 2010, 12:53, closed)

As someone else said, there'll be a few of theses....
Met a girl, it turned into a long term relationship. I missed or mentally ignored the obvious trouble signs, generally revolving around an incredibly self centred approach to life.
We didn't marry, but did buy a house together. I trusted her implicitly(Why oh why!) and all the paperwork was in her name and I contributed my part to her, plus did all the usual blokey-house things, tiling, roofing, brickwork, plumbing, you name it etc.
She got bored of people telling her to get on with her job here so took some part time work teaching diving in Egypt on boats....... decided to start fucking a deck-hand.....came back from time to time and pursuaded us to move out of the house so we could rent it out due to cost reasons, got me to do all the work and moving etc. and then set about asset stripping us before dumping me and fucking back off to Egypt.

Even without being married she took everything! What was I thinking!
(verynaughtyboy, Thu 30 Sep 2010, 7:55, closed)