Beer or God?
I’m getting married to a fellow b3tan next year, as some people know.

Now, I’ve done the marriage thing before, and she hasn’t, so I am happy to do whatever she wants. And, to my admitted relief, she doesn’t want the full works, preferring instead a quiet ceremony with just a handful of people present. We’ll have a big party the week after and invite friends and family to that. If they don’t like it they can lump it as far as we’re concerned – it’s our day.

Now, I’m not a cheapskate – far from it. However, I have a natural cautiousness with money borne out of too many years of having to deal with financial fuckwits that don’t understand the concept of saving up. Over the last year, the cashflow has been a bit tight for one reason and another, so I’m quite happy that the whole thing is only going to cost somewhere in the region of two grand. Probably the most costly individual element is the coat I am going to wear for the occasion, but I digress. We could put it off and spend longer saving, but we both want to do it sooner rather than later.

Neither of us is religious in any way, shape or form. I still have pangs at getting married in a church the first time round, so this time it’s a case of no religious connotations of any kind. Except that, in our desire to save as much money as we can on the day itself (look, we’ve got a b3ta bash to go to that weekend and we all know how expensive they can get), we noted that a civil ceremony costs about £80 more than a religious one… it was dilemma. Take the moral stance and stick to our principles? Or think, “Great, an extra £80 quid for beer tokens at the weekend”?

Hmm. Tricky one. After much soul searching, there was only one choice to be made really.

If there is a Hell, I fully expect the trap door to open beneath me on the day. Principles can go to fuck on this occasion.
( Davros' Granddad a voice of calm reason in a world of spastics., Thu 11 Dec 2008, 15:06, 7 replies)

Apart from the obvious congratulations
let me just say you're right in having a small ceremony if that's what you want.

I got married last weekend and there were only four people there apart from the wife and I. It was wonderful.

Amazed though at the cost of the civil ceremony - we got married for £43, excluding the cost of the registration which I think was £30 each. Sounds like your council are taking the piss.
( I_Was_Mordred, Thu 11 Dec 2008, 15:10, closed)

Yup
I got married for next to nowt in the council offices in Hawick in 2000.

Congrats by the way Mordred!
( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Thu 11 Dec 2008, 15:44, closed)

Congratulations Mordred!
xxx
( Tourette's ( . )( . ) has a monkey hair in her fried egg, Thu 11 Dec 2008, 17:18, closed)

Well,
you would choose to get married in Gretna ....

and £80 on booze doesn't go that far in Edinburgh, remember ...
(TheWeeWitch hasn't been here much recently .., Thu 11 Dec 2008, 15:14, closed)

You're not wrong there.....
Was out in centre of Edinburgh on Saturday night, looking at £4.50 a pint in some places.
( Stu71 ....bad money dies, I love the scene, Thu 11 Dec 2008, 15:36, closed)

The grass market's not that pricey
Plus The Scotsman's Lounge on COCKburn St is very reasonable. Good quality real ale and a resident band/duo every Friday night ;o)
( Tourette's ( . )( . ) has a monkey hair in her fried egg, Thu 11 Dec 2008, 17:17, closed)

Congrats!
What's your `individual' coat like BTW?
( DUMBLONDE is a rubber lover girl, Tue 16 Dec 2008, 12:43, closed)