I don't see any difference between saying you will call and not
and not taking their call to be honest.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:19, 2 replies, latest was 15 years ago)

That's because there isn't.
Everyone just likes to be the one in control of the rejection, and if you can dress that up as "all women/men (delete as applicable) are utter SHITS" then all the better for the anger management.
( the mighty badger Aphrodite, on a bar stool, by your side, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:23, Reply)

precisely
which leads us back to saying you will call and not. Easy way out of not being rejected yourself.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:25, Reply)

i was joking, vippers
therein lies the difference.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:25, Reply)

I bet there was a grain of truth in it
and we weren't necessarily talking about you in particular.

The unfortunate thing is that as much as it sucks, it happens. Not everyone will do it. There is an element of needing to man the fuck up. It is not the fault of every man that she may have low self-esteem brought on by this, it is unlikely that any of them set out to bring her down.

Getting that worked up about it, and doing what seems like settling for someone awful because all the others she's been out with have been shit is a bit desperate in my view.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:32, Reply)